Wednesday, January 31, 2018

Wednesday Blessings

Lanie and Yours Truly
I saw a meme tonight that was nothing if not true for me right now. It said "It feels like January 74th." Lord, y'all…I try to be an optimist…but January has about done me in. Here is PRAYING February goes a little smoother.

Last week was a little rough. It was one of those weeks when you're mentally drained by like 3 p.m. on Tuesday…and you're just like "I. Just. Can't."

BUT…in an effort to glean something good from even a meh situation, I will say that I had two positives come out of the week. 1. We FINALLY got to celebrate KW's birthday. We ventured off to Cedar Key for her (oh-so-belated) birthday dinner. We were so busy catching up, as per our norm, we forgot to snap a photo. And 2. I got to hang out with this chick on Saturday night. I swear, we work literally walking distance from each other, but sometimes we go weeks without seeing each other.

So, despite a crappy week, I am reminded of my blessings. I have such wonderful friends. I have people in my life that just GET me. I have an incredible support system around me. I am so incredibly blessed.

Tuesday, January 30, 2018

4-H County Events


This past Saturday, I was asked to help judge the Gilchrist County 4-H County Events. Now, there are very few events that I am willing to give up my Saturdays for… But 4-H? 4-H did so much for me growing up! I know I've mentioned this a million times, but it was 4-H that helped bring me out of my shell growing up. I was honored to be asked to help.

I was completely nostalgic walking into the Bell Elementary Cafeteria. I saw so many familiar faces. The room was buzzing with nerves and excitement, and kids in 4-H official dress. Oh, how I remember those days.

I was asked to judge the Share The Fun and Fashion Revue events. Because sewing and crafting is becoming a thing of the past in many ways, it is always a blessing to see children still wanting to learn! I was so proud of the girls that participated in that event.

And Share The Fun? I was wowed. There was so much talent!

I know that I was asked to help, but truthfully, I was the one that walked out of there blessed!

Monday, January 29, 2018

Mama Says: "It's The Simple Things In Life"


I’m not a complicated person really. I enjoy the simple things. A good book. Even better, free time to read that good book. I hate feeling guilty about sitting reading that good book, when there’s housework or something else waiting to be done. Let me lay back in my recliner with my book, and no work waiting. But alas, this hardly ever happens (not the reading, but the no guilt part or the no work waiting.)

I enjoy a long walk on the beach. But make sure it’s early in the morning or late in the evening--when it’s not hot--so I won’t get sunburned. ( oh lordy, I’m beginning to sound like I’m completing an application on LonelyHearts.com.)

I enjoy spending time with family and friends. I enjoy my kids. They are some of my favorite people. I enjoy spending time with my mother-in-law, talking about the old days, her childhood, and old Cedar Key. I love spending time with my aunt, my mother’s sister. I learn things about my mother’s family and the things of their childhood. 

Another simple pleasure, is sitting down with a large glass of diet coke, over crushed ice. Especially if I’m tired. It relaxes me. I guess, since I am actually a true southern girl…I should have said a glass of iced tea. But, while born and raised in the south, the truth is, I hate tea. (Probably due to the fact that my brother thought it would be fun to put hot sauce in my tea when I was eight or nine. Haven’t liked it since.) I’ll grab a diet coke every time. 
 
I don’t like roses, I love sunflowers. However, if you feel the need to give me roses…I like yellow, don’t give me red roses.

I don’t like diamonds, I love rubies. Rubies, not garnets. There is a difference!

At Valentines Day, you don’t have to buy me a big box of chocolates. I hate creamy fillings. Just give me a Snickers or PayDay bar.

It’s the simple things in life that make me happy. Like this weekend, I found a new cleaning product. Since I had to get a new well this past year, I have been dealing with iron stains. I have bought and used a lot of products, but they failed to live up to their claims. Bleach would help, but not completely remove them. Stain free fixtures!! I’m a happy girl!!

Sunday, January 28, 2018

A Year In Review: Mrs. Wanda Kay Mathis


Mrs. Wanda Kay "Katie" Matthis
Two weekends ago, I was able to have lunch with one of the most genuine souls I think I've ever met.  She just exudes joy; and is kind to the core.

You see, I've been hearing about Mrs. Wanda for quite some time.  My mama, also known as Cynthia Kay, spends her Wednesdays at Pine Grove Baptist helping prepare the meal for Wednesday night dinners.  Mama typically takes care of baking the desserts, and Mrs. Wanda takes care of the cooking, along with some other sweet helpers.  Mrs. Wanda actually attends another church, but her cooking abilities preceded her, and she was asked if she could cook for Pine Grove when another lady stepped down.  Her cooking is widely known throughout Trenton....she even cooks many Fridays during football season for the Trenton Tiger Football Team.

My mama absolutely adores Mrs. Wanda, and upon meeting her, I completely understand.  She is a blessing to be around, and my spirits were just uplifted after meeting her.  I so hope you will enjoy her interview.

Cynthia Kay and Wanda Kay :)
What is your full name?

"Wanda Kay Mathis"

How did you get your name?
"My dad had two great-nieces. One was named 'Wanda,' the other's middle name was named 'Kay.' So they put them together. My mom wanted to name me 'Artencia' but my dad hated it. I have a niece named Artencia. My sister kept that name. I'm a better 'Wanda.'"

Did you have any nicknames? 

"'Katie.' So if you ever hear anyone say 'Hey Mrs. Katie' that's me. Most of my family calls me Katie, very seldom do they call me Wanda."

When and where were you born?

"I was born in Gainesville on January 9, 1971."

Mrs. Wanda and two grandbabies: NaHarmoni and Aiden.
What were your best memories with your father?

"My best memories with my father was on the farm. We were raised on a farm. My dad worked for the Quinceys for years. Stacey Quincey. Those were my best memories with him."

What were your best memories with your mother?

"Shopping. She loved to shop. Boutiques, consignment, malls…it didn't matter. She loved to shop. She could find something anywhere. She'd save money, she'd spend money. We never went without. It wasn't that we had the money…Most other kids might have had bigger homes, nicer homes, but we never went without…food, clothes, we never went without."

What did you want to be when you grew up?
"A teacher. I wanted to be a teacher. When I was little, I would write on everything. I had my books. Seriously. I wanted to be a teacher. Not now. Now, I know it's not for me. I'd rather stay cookin'."

This photo was taken at Mrs. Bertha Walton's Funeral (Mrs. Wanda's Granny).  Mrs. Wanda is shown (bottom center); with her daughter Tassie (to her right); her nieces, Renee, Ebony, Shanae; her sister, Tan; and her nephew, Jamari.
How do you remember holidays growing up?

"Oh, holidays? Always people around. My relatives, my aunts, my uncles, my grandmother, my granddad, my family.  Food. We would play games. That was every holiday. That's why I learned how to cook so much…for big groups. And out of my mom and dad, I couldn't tell you which one could cook the best. He cooked what she cooked, she cooked what he cooked. They both were good cooks. Holidays were the best days. Now, a lot of my older relatives have passed on, so we're training the younger generation up. Same thing. Family first."

What was your favorite food growing up?

"Fried chicken, greens, Mom's macaroni and cheese, Dad's lima beans. I used to throw down on some lima beans. And he used to grill a lot, and that was always good. But fried chicken…fried chicken is my favorite. It's my grandson's favorite too. I'll probably wind up cooking some today. He loves some fried chicken."

What was your first job?

"Watermelon field. Tobacco. Peanuts. Anything that had to do with farming."

Where did you meet your spouse?

"Believe it or not, I was with a friend, and we'd gone to her boyfriend's house. The next door neighbor was having a cookout and we were invited over. So, I met him at a cookout in Bronson. He was originally from Philadelphia, but his family moved down in '79 or '80 to Marianna, Florida."

What was the first thing that you noticed about him/her?

"His smile. He smiles all the time. Even now, still to this day."

How did you know that he was the one?

"It was how he treated me. With my size, he wasn't ashamed of me or anything. That's what made me fall in love with him."

Mrs. Wanda's church used to be at the Ice House, this is where her wedding was held.
Tell me about your wedding.

"In Trenton. Got married at our church, Jesus Way Church of Deliverance. It was nice. My son was the ring-bearer. We got married on December 19, 1992. My grandmother, my mom, everyone was there. My dad wasn't there, he had passed away in 1988. The colors were lavender and cream white."

How many years have you been married?

"24 years. 25 in December."

What is the key to a happy marriage?

"Being friends. Friendship. Enjoying each other's company. Sometimes, people who are together…they might not do the same things. You may go one way, they may go their way. But still…you've got to have your 'me' time and then have you have your together time. We used to go fishing, go to our kid's games. You've got to be friends first."

Photo taken at NaHarmoni's 2nd birthday. (Left to Right) Tassie, Josh, NaHarmoni, Mrs. Wanda, Aiden, Adrienne and Brandon.
What were your memories of expecting your first child? 

"Scared. I didn't know what to expect! I heard a girl 2 doors down screaming and it scared me! I was thinking 'Lord, get me out of this!' But then after that, no worries, no problems. Just excited. It was just fear the first time, because you don't know what to expect. And she was my smallest child. Tassie was 6 lbs 11 oz. Brandon was 9 lbs 13 oz. Adrienne was 8 lbs 14oz. Leondre was 8 lbs 13 oz. Josh was 7 lbs. 8 oz."

If you could sum up each child with one word, what would those words be?

"Tassie would be 'giving.' Brandon would be 'devoted.' Adrienne would be 'hardworking.' Leondre would be 'caring.' Josh would be 'millionaire' because he loves money."

NaHarmoni's Birthday Party: (Left to right) NaHarmoni, Mrs. Wanda, Aiden, Adrienne,  Brandon and Josh.
What was your proudest moment as a parent?
"Graduation. Seeing them graduate."

What was your hardest moment as a parent?

"Seeing them leave home. When my middle son went to prison. That tore me up. I had to pray for God to give me strength. But when they started getting grown, marrying off and leaving home. That was hard. I thought it was bad when they went to Kindergarten, because I cried. But I got over that. When they graduated and started leaving home? That hurt."

What do you wish you had known when you were younger?
"Take my time. Slow down in life. I wish I'd known that. Stay in school. See, I quit school. That's why I was so proud to see my kids graduate! But I wish I would've taken my time instead of trying to be grown. I wish I'd have listened to my parents."

What advice would you give a young person?

"It's really according to the person. To sum it up though…It's best to know the Lord. That's the best advice. When you don't have anyone to fall back on, He is always there. This young generation, they don't have what we had. I had my elders to go to. Now they don't. Don't think you know it all. Always be willing to learn."

This photo was taken at Akins during a Church Family lunch outing:  Mrs. Wanda, with Ms. Essie, Ms Christine and Ms. Carmen.
What legacy would you like to be known for? 

"As a servant. My life…I get a thrill in being there for people. Whether it be just as a listener, or being there to do something for someone. Even by cooking and seeing people enjoy their meal, that makes me feel good. Sometimes the in the middle of the night, if someone is sick and needs to go to the hospital, I'm willing to take them. I'm just willing to serve. I want people to remember me as a true woman of God and that I really loved family and people. I want them to remember that I lived what I preached."

In your words, what is the key to happiness?

"Driving in your own lane. Happiness to me is loving your family. Taking one day at a time. If something comes up, I try to figure out what to do to make it better."

Adrienne, Ms. Carmen, Ms. Pat, and Mrs. Wanda at a Trenton Tigers' Game.
Of all of the places you have traveled to, what has been your favorite?

"There are two. The first is when they took me up to Pennsylvania, and they took me up to see Niagra Falls on that trip. I went to see Niagra Falls at night. It was so beautiful. We were staying in a town in between Pennsylvania and Buffalo, New York.  The grass, the mountains, it was just beautiful. AND there was a Walmart. They had told me I didn't have to do anything, but no... I wanted to do something for them, so I was going to cook. I took my son to Walmart at like 1 a.m. I went in there looking for grits.  I asked a worker if they had grits. He said, 'we have cream of wheat.' (She laughs)   They did end up finding a small variety pack of grits. But that's not the real stuff. They told me about a kind of bread they make, like a cinnamon bread…with the icing on it. So, that's what I fixed, with patty sausage. The one thing about that trip was…my son drove me. And everywhere we stopped, to fill up, we were taking pictures. It was just so pretty!"

Mrs. Wanda and Josh on the Bahama cruise
"My other favorite trip is when I went to the Bahamas.  I went on a cruise ship and it was just amazing. Mrs. Pat Lindsey surprised me and Josh with that trip. Me and Pat are like sisters. She knew the first time I had wanted to go, my Mother in Law had gotten sick, and I couldn't go. Pat and my kids got the money up, and everything was paid for, for me and Josh to go."

What is your favorite dish to make?

"I guess fried chicken."

A Saturday night dinner:  Mrs. Wanda's good cookin'.
How would you describe your cooking style? 

"Soul food. Southern soul food."
What advice would you give to someone that doesn't know how to cook? 

"First of all, you've got to take your time. If you don't have a passion for cooking, it'll have to grow in you. So, take your time. Don't make a big meal at first. Start small. Go from there."

How would you define "Southern Lady?"

"A Southern lady is a lady that can multi-task. She can clean, she can cook, she can go out in the field and get dirty. She takes care of her children. If she has to get her hands dirty, she don't mind; and she can be classy at the same time. Southern ladies do it all."

A photo of Mrs. Wanda's Church:  The Jesus Way Church of Deliverance
Pearls of Wisdom and other stories from Mrs. Wanda: 

"My father died May 8, 1988. I was 17. It tore me up. Now, let me tell y'all something amazing. I wasn't saved. I knew about church. But I wasn't a churchgoer. I was in Cross City that weekend visiting my sister. I went to bed that Saturday night and I had a dream. And in my dream, I came out of my sister's house. She lived in a wooden house. I came out and stepped on the porch. I looked up and the sky was beautiful. Then, all of a sudden, it started turning grey and the white clouds disappeared. I looked up thinking, 'What in the world is going on?' I saw something falling. It finally got to where I could see what it was and I realized it was a white feather. One single white feather. I kept watching it all. And when it finally hit the ground, it swooped back and forth until it settled. And when it settled, it turned into a piece of paper. As God is my witness, I walked down the steps, and I grabbed the piece of paper. It was my dad's obituary. On the obituary, it had that he passed in May. It had that he was born in October, and that he passed in May. And when i picked it up in my dream, I started crying. I saw a police officer coming up. Have you ever heard of Mr. Ridgeway? It was Mr. Ridgeway. He was coming up in his car. He said (in my dream) 'I've come to give you some bad news.' And I just kept crying. That's how I woke up. I called my sister and I asked for mama. Mama was working. I asked them to come get me. I didn't tell them what happened. I cried until they came to Cross City and picked me up. And I cried the whole way home. That next day, I went to the nursing home. He was at Ayers then. He had prostate cancer. When I went into that nursing home, I fell on my knees and cried. I didn't tell him about the dream though. I cried and cried. I cried until a little bit of the hurt got off of me. Then I got up, and I felt a little better. This was all in April. In May, it was on Mother's Day. I woke up feeling bad. There used to be a little place in Williston called 'Frogs'…just a little juke. My friends and I were supposed to be going for Mother's Day. They came to pick me up and I told them I couldn't go. I just wasn't feeling good. I mean, I felt so bad. They went on. I stayed in the house all day. My mom was at work. I went down to my Granny's house. My granny said 'Katie, where you been all day?' I said, 'Granny, I've been sick. I've been in the bed all day.' She said, 'I knew you'd have been here, to tell me Happy Mother's Day and what not. You hadn't come to eat or nothing!' She asked me if I wanted to eat, I said no. But she told me I needed to have something in my stomach, so she went and made me a little bowl of banana pudding. While she was fixin the banana pudding the phone rang. She didn't have a phone in the kitchen. It was in her room, by her recliner, where she'd sit and watch her stories. She walked in and answered the phone, and I heard her say 'Oh my God.' I knew. I knew it was my dad. She came out and said, just like the officer in my dream did, she said 'Katie, I've got some bad news.' I said 'I already know.' I said 'Granny, I never understood it until I gave my life to the Lord, but He had shown me.' It tore me up. When I say it tore me up, it tore me up. But I think that day that I got to be with him, that was my grieving day. But I never told anyone about the dream until after he passed. My mom passed February 25, 1999…and I was right there. There were no problems then, I knew the Lord, I'd been praying. Until she took her last breath, I was right there with her. I took care of her for five years, because she'd had a stroke. There was a difference, like night and day, when my dad passed away and when my mom passed away. Jesus has known me always, but I didn't know Him when my dad passed. Sometimes people fear things. But God, He let's us know things to prepare us. That way when it happens…it may hurt, but not as bad."

"Now that I'm older, I understand how the Circle of Life goes, and it's all in God's hands. Some people He restores, and some people He doesn't. Now I know that everyday is a blessing. I love my kids. And everyday, when I meet somebody…I don't meet no strangers. However they take it, that's that. Sometimes I see somebody and they shy away, but I love them. That's the best way of getting through life. There's enough heartache to take you down. Now I tell my kids, and everyone I witness to, 'live life one day at a time. If you're not careful you'll miss what's in front of you.'"

"When I start getting to the point where I feel aggravation setting in, I'll go visit somebody or go witness to somebody. or go cook for somebody. That's what lifts me up."

Josh and Mrs. Wanda at the Tigers' first championship game.
"I kid a lot about my cooking being the reason the Tigers' have won a few championships."

"You have to multi-task. I wash dishes as I go. Because once I'm done, that's it. 'Til everyone goes home. Then I'll get up, clean up, take out the trash and all. But I try to clean as I go."

"I used to be 500 pounds. I've been big all my life. And it never slowed me down. In 2009, I saw a movie 'What's eating Gilbert Grape.' Their mom was big, and in the movie, she always slept downstairs, but she finally went upstairs, and she laid down in the bed up there, and she passed. Well, they couldn't get her out of the house. They ended up cremating her in the house. And I thought 'I'd never want my kids to go through something like that.' That was horrible. And it got me to thinking all kinds of things. So I prayed about it. I started eating right, and drinking lemon water. I went from 540 in 2009. At the end of 2010, I was 370. In 2011, I got weighed in May and I was 264. I ate smaller portions. I walked. When I started losing weight, and my kids looked at old pictures, they said 'Oh mama, I didn't realize you were that big.' They hadn't seen it. They were blinded by their mama's love."

"In 2012, I noticed I couldn't walk too far. When my sister in law passed, we had to go to the airport, and I couldn't even walk in there, it was like I'd ran up a flight of stairs. I knew something was wrong with me. I drove all the way to West Florida, feeling bad, went to the funeral. They had to help me in. I came home that Sunday night and planned to go to the doctor the next day. I should've went to the Emergency Room. That Monday morning, I remember sending James to school. Bianca came and picked up James. I went into my room to get clothes to go to the doctor, that's all I remember. I remember grabbing the dresser saying 'Jesus save me.' I heard voices, saw lights, doctor's asking me questions. Later, my husband said that he heard me hit the floor. It was the Lord, now. The way I should've landed would've had me hitting the corner of the other dresser with my head. But my body turned, and I fell in between it. He couldn't find my cell phone. He ran to two of my neighbors houses. He ended up seeing my sister. and she ran in and found my phone. It's by the grace of God that I'm here today. I had a huge blood clot. We had special doctors come in and they said it was too large. They told my kids all they could do was pray. I told my kids I was in the Lord's hands. I told them if it was His Will, it would be alright. If not, I know where I'm going."

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Mrs. Wanda survived that ordeal.  She had a purpose not yet fulfilled.  She had more folks to bring joy to.  She had more people to witness to.  And this author, for one, is blessed to have had the opportunity to meet her.  She is an extraordinary human being.  One who never meets a stranger.  If ever you see her around Trenton, stop and say hello.  Believe me, your day will be made better.  

Saturday, January 27, 2018

A Year In Review: The Folds Family


The Folds Family

The Folds Family
Heather, Blake, Braden, Bubba, and Bryce
Tell me a little about Cystic Fibrosis.

Heather: "It's lengthy. So, I pulled up the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation website. Tons of information there. About Cystic Fibrosis--a quick run-down…'It's a progressive, genetic disease that causes persistent lung infections, and limits the ability to breathe over time. Symptoms of CF: very salty tasting skin; persistent coughing at times with phlegm; frequent lung infections including pneumonia or bronchitis; wheezing or shortness of breath; poor growth or weight gain in spite of a good appetite; frequent gassy, bulky stools, or difficulty with bowel movements; and male infertility.' And then it goes into all of the diagnostics and genetics and all of that.”

“So, the way I like to tell people is: ‘You don't really know if you're a CF carrier. When I met Bubba, we had no clue. Neither of us had ever really even heard of the disease. Apparently, you're a symptomless carrier. You have no idea that you're carrying it. It's a 1 in 4 chance for us to have a child with CF. Very slim. In order to have a child with CF, that particular sperm, my particular egg, both have to have the copy of CF. So, low and behold, that's how we got Bryce.’ I remember being pregnant with him, and the doctor asking me if I would like to do genetic testing. I was like ‘No…’ We were 21, very young, we were healthy, we didn't have any symptoms in our family….She did the typical rundown of what the test would be. She said ‘Cystic Fibrosis’ and I said ‘What is that?’ She said ‘If you've never heard of it, don't worry about it.’ So, we didn't do the testing. We didn't find out about Bryce until he was three and a half. See, they do newborn screenings now. In the State of Florida, in 2007, it passed where every newborn was screened for Cystic Fibrosis.”

“In 2007, Blake was born. His result came back abnormal for CF. We took him for the sweat test, which is how they also determine for CF. It opens up your pores and makes you sweat. You're shocked for 10 minutes, they do one leg at a time, they take the sweat and they test the salt content. I'll explain that a little further later on. When they did Blake's sweat test, his came back very low. We learned that he's a carrier for CF. So, whoever he will marry, she will need to be tested, given what we know.” 

“Number 3, Braden, was a huge surprise. After Blake, my husband went and got a vasectomy. So, God said ‘Eh, not done. You're not done, even if you say you're done.’ Of course, they did the newborn screening on him, because that was 2010. And it came back that he wasn't a carrier.” 

“So, we have a child with CF, a child who is a carrier, and a child that is not a carrier. For us to have a child that is not a carrier is also a 1 in 4 chance. To have one that is a carrier is a 50% chance.”

"CF not only affects the lungs and the digestion…but it affects the pancreas, the kidneys…it all wears down because his body is fighting so hard."

"He has to consume like 10,000 calories a day."

Bubba: "See, for him to breathe, it burns 3,000 calories. But then his body doesn't digest the fat, either. That's why he has to take enzymes….for the digestive problems." 

Heather: "Yeah, it's lengthy. We could take a whole week to tell you about it."

Bubba: "And with the enzymes that he takes, there is really no way to know when they're working or when they're not working. It's all trial and error. He could be growing and getting bigger, but not be taking enough enzymes, so he'll have constant stomach pains. If he's having stomach pains, or digestive issues, we have to up his enzymes. But then, he can only take so many enzymes per day. So, there's that to keep in mind, too."

Bryce, at 3, showing off his muscles
Bryce's Story
Heather: “When he was a newborn, he had meconium, but it was already passing through. Some CF babies have a blockage, and they will have to have multiple sonograms. Well, because we had no history, and because we didn't have insurance, we only had one sonogram. Everything was going well. I was growing, I was measuring where I needed to be, so there were really no concerns. When he was born, he had the meconium, and they had to beat him a little bit, and everything cleared up. He was good to go.”

The hospital had no air conditioning. The doctor asked if I had a support system. I told him ‘Yeah, my mom lives in Chiefland, and Bubba's mom came down from Jacksonville.’ The doctor said he was going to let us go home. So, we were released 24 hours later.”

“Everything was going good. He was just SO hungry. I thought it was me, because I was trying to nurse him. We finally supplemented formula, he was still hungry. The pediatrician was just like ‘Oh, he's just got failure to thrive. Let's go ahead and give him all formula.’ He seemed to start doing better. But when he was 4 months old, he was drinking 8 ounces every two hours. That's the whole bottle, every two hours! But the pediatrician was like ‘Oh, he's doing good!’ He started plumping up, and gaining weight.”

“Then, he started getting sick. I would have to sit up in bed, pillows up around me, and hold him up. When you would lay him down, and he would cry, he would gurgle and it didn't sound normal. But we were young parents, and we didn't know. We would just pick him up and he would be fine. As long as we were holding him up, or he was up in his car seat, or he was up in his swing, he was fine. The doctor said ‘Oh, he's asthmatic.’ We started doing the asthma treatments, and going through all of that. He started doing good. By the time he was one, the pediatrician said he was asthma-free.”

“He was chubby, he was growing…he was a little on the short side, but the pediatrician said ‘Well, you guys are small, so he'll probably just be tinier.’ That pediatrician was in Gainesville. Then, I started working for Trenton Pediatrics (now Palms Medical), so we started seeing Dr. Cathy Vega.”

“At three and a half, Bryce got an ear infection, and it was just not going away. We were up to the point of doing Rocephin shots. He had a rectal prolapse, which is an immediate sign for CF. My mom said ‘Something is wrong with Bryce.’ By the time that she brought him, he had relaxed enough and it had went back in. Dr. Kathy pulled her book, and found it and said, ‘ask your mom is this what she saw.’ She looked at the pictures and said ‘Yes! Right there, right there!’ Dr. Cathy closed her book and said ‘I want to rule everything out. The first thing we need to do is a Sweat Test for Cystic Fibrosis.’ I said ‘What do you mean?’ She said, ‘I just want to rule things out. Let's not be concerned.’ She pulled up Cystic Fibrosis and said ‘Look at these’ and named off all the symptoms. I said ‘No, no. He doesn't have that.’ I remember talking to Bubba, and he read the symptoms. He said ‘Heather…’ I said ‘No, I'm not going to believe it.’”

“They did an urgent referral, and I think we went within a matter of two days and got the Sweat Test. We came back, and I was working. I picked up the phone, and she said ‘This is Shands, we have a Stat for one of your patients.’ I asked the patient's name. She said ‘Bryce Folds.’ I dropped the phone, and literally fell. Susan Bongiovanni was in the window. She said ‘Heather!’ Everyone knew we'd gone and had the Sweat Test done. I said ‘It's Bryce.’ She ran around the corner, picked up the phone, got the results, hung up. Her, Dr. Cathy, Mrs. Peggy, they all took me into a room, and said ‘Heather, he has Cystic Fibrosis.’ I kept saying ‘No, no he doesn't!’ I was in denial. Bubba, being the dad, he knew that Bryce had it.”

“We had to go back within a week and do a second Sweat Test. The first one was 95% positive. The second one was 99% positive. During a sweat test, they put a medicine that makes you sweat on the thigh, then they put the gauze, then they hook electrodes on there. It shocks them. You know when your hand or foot goes to sleep? We asked the tech, "What is this doing to him?" He said "I'm so glad you asked me. I wanted to know. So, I did it to myself so that I could explain it. It's like the pins and needles when your hand and foot falls asleep." So, Bryce had to do that for 10 minutes on one leg, 10 minutes on the other. Then we had to wait 30 minutes for each leg. Three and a half years old and he's saying, ‘Mommy, please make it stop.’ Screaming the whole time. It was horrible.”

“When Blake had it done, he had no clue. He was only barely 6 weeks old. All I had to do was nurse him and he was okay. So, there was a big difference from having it done with a 6-week-old and a three-and-a-half-year-old.”

“We sat there. I think the first one we were brave for. We were in denial. We kept thinking ‘It's not going to happen. It's not going to happen. There's something else.’ The second one, we just broke down and cried. We didn't want to do it again, but they had to rule out a false positive.”

“Our nurse, Cindy Capian, was the best.--She, unfortunately, retired last year. I think everyone in the CF family/community was like ‘No! You can't go!’—But, that day, Bubba’s parents were there with us. She sat us down and went over every question that we had. She sat there and explained it to us. She said ‘Your life is not going to be the same, but that's okay. You guys CAN do this. I don't want you to think about the negative.’ And the most important thing she told us was: ‘Do not read the internet. You will see so many sad stories.’"

“We think how blessed we are, because we don't understand. He shouldn't look like this. He shouldn't. He has the Double Delta F508. They are almost always sickly, they're in the hospitals, and you look at him and you're like ‘No.’ We talked about this just the other day… ‘Why are we so blessed?’ Being that he's going to be 14, there are battles. He doesn't want to do his treatments the way he's supposed to. We get blown away by how healthy he is. Shands has sent many people into our room and they ask what we're doing. We say ‘We do whatever you tell us to do.’ We have no idea. We've told them, ‘It's prayer.’ We have no other explanation, but that's God's power, right there. I think Bubba was there when the nurses came in and looked at his chart and were like 'He has Cystic Fibrosis?!' So, we don't understand, but we are truly blessed.”

Bubba: "God has a purpose for Bryce. That's the way I really feel. He obviously has a purpose for everyone, but there's some purpose for Bryce. There's a 6-year-old boy right now, that has Double Delta F508, and he's in the ICU right now. He's not improving. He's skinny, his lungs aren't functioning. It's just night and day between him and Bryce. That's what really gives us the reality check and also makes us ask ourselves 'why are we so lucky or blessed.' It's not fair. But it's also not fair for us to have a child with CF, either. But I do believe that God has a purpose for Bryce."

Heather: "He was diagnosed December 19, 2006. That was a very hard year."

Blake: "Ms. Aleta, read that sign over there."

The sign that Kelly Douglas has gifted the Folds with.
Heather: "That was a gift from Kelly Douglas. She had gotten one for her house, too."

Heather: “This past December marked 10 years since he was first diagnosed. He's only been hospitalized once. April 24th of this year marked 5 years since his hospitalization. I'll never forget it. It was my birthday present that year. That day, the day five years ago when they sent him to the hospital...we were broke. We were like ‘No, this is not happening.’ We went five years without ever having to go to the hospital--without ever having to experience that side of CF. We spent 14 days in the hospital. That is the minimum--14 days. You don't get out sooner than that.”

Blake: "I was there. I was four!"

Bryce: "We got to leave one day early."

Heather: "Yeah, they did end up letting us leave one day early."

Bubba: "We went in for a quarterly checkup, and his lung function was down to less than 10%. We hadn't realized that. We knew that he was coughing…But they did the test and his lung function was the lowest it had ever been."

Heather: "Yeah, hospital stays…they call them ‘tune ups.’ He gets a pic line put in, they do IV medication through that. I think it's every 4 to 6 hours. They had him on 2-3 different antibiotics."

Bryce: "Even in the middle of the night."

Heather: "Every 2 hours he does his vest. They woke you up, they didn't care (she laughs). There was a time when I was like 'I'm going stir crazy, I have to get out now!' We actually took him out of the hospital…we didn't know we weren't supposed to. But we took him out, when he was doing better, and we walked all the way to Lake Alice. They asked us 'Where did you go? You're only supposed to stay in the hospital!' We didn't know. They were okay with it."

Heather: "Here are his medicines right now. One of your questions was 'how is his life different from his friends?' He has to take these--his dose right now is three with meals, two with snacks--So, he takes a handful of pills each day just with meals.”

The estimated daily amount of medicine that Bryce has to take just with meals.
(Shows another medicine) “They have actually taken this off of him. He only takes it now when he's sick. When Bryce is sick, he coughs. That is the tell-tale sign. When he is sick, he'll cough, and it's real mucous-y. We'll call Shands and they'll put him on an antibiotic, because they know it's not normal when he's coughing. Sometimes his sinus infections go straight to his lungs.”

“Pulmozyme--This is the hardest one for Bryce to take. Not quite sure why. It only takes 7 minutes. It's much like Albuterol treatments that babies take. This became available to Bryce when he turned 6. When he was first diagnosed, Pulmozyme was still in the trial phase. By the time he turned 6, it was released to CF patients. That was kind of awesome…we got to witness a medicine that was the trial phase actually become available to Bryce.”

“These are his vitamins. He's supposed to take two of these. These are also a battle. Again, not sure why. He doesn't like to take these either. He just got blood work done, so we'll see what his doctors say about that. They are pretty big. These are specifically made for A, D, E and K, because his body doesn't absorb those. So, they're higher concentration.”

“This is like the Holy Grail for Double Delta F508 CF--Orkambi. He got it when he turned 12. This medication goes outside of the cell, and tells the cell ‘you're not making Cystic Fibrosis,’ and reverses it. It's like goosebump-material. The first one was Kalydeco, Kalydeco goes inside the cell. He takes Orkambi twice a day with a high fat meal. His PFTs (Pulmonary Function Tests) are soaring because of this. They've now bumped it down to 6 years old. So, other children with Double Delta F508 CF will be able to get this when they turn 6."

Bubba: "That medicine right there is $23,000 a month."

Heather: "The first month, the insurance was like 'Okay, we'll send it.' Second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, and seventh months the insurance denied it. They kept saying 'You didn't do his genetic testing on the right paperwork.' So, we had to send him back for genetic testing. They still denied it…for unknown reasons. Everyone at Shands was like 'He's the only one that's being denied!'"

Bubba: "It wasn't on an approved USDA form the second time it came back. So, it had to be USDA approved in a USDA approved facility that it had to be done at."

Heather: "Finally, I had to write a letter stating, 'I cannot believe that you are denying my child life-saving medication. We've provided all the documentation, our nurses have talked to you, our doctors have talked to you, our representative with the pharmaceutical company has talked to you…I am talking to you now. Please approve this medication!' Wouldn't you know it, they approved it.”

“Actually, the day we went down, the ladies group at Pine Grove, I'd told them, and they'd been praying and praying. The whole six-seven months we kept getting denied. But that whole time, the pharmaceutical company kept getting it to us. Finally, they all took me to the altar. We all prayed at the altar. We prayed 'God, we're turning this over to you. We're going to stop fretting about it, it's in Your hands.' We get out of church, and my phone pings that I had a message. It's a voicemail from the pharmaceutical representative. She says 'I just want to let you know, the insurance has approved it. I had to come into the office and wrap up your paperwork.' Who else does that? I sat there and cried! Bubba asked 'what is it?' I said 'The medication has been approved! It's been approved!' Amazing! We are so blessed to have Orkambi.”

“The one catch with Orkambi is that Bryce now has to start having yearly eye exams. When he first started it, he had to have blood work every 3 months. Then it went to 6 months, and now we're yearly. They do that because it puts such a strain on his liver, so they have to check the liver enzymes. They do the eye exam, because they found that some of the patients on Orkambi got cataracts.”

“It's a battle as parents, we have to decide the pros and cons of life-saving medications. When he was younger, we had to choose not to put him on ADHD medicine, although he has it, because we didn't want to put him on anything else that would affect his liver. His medication already affects his liver and we didn't want to add to that.”

“I was reading today that there is more coming down the pipeline. Each CF patient takes the medication differently. A child might have Double Delta F508, like Bryce, but it doesn't mean the medicine is going to work the same. Their bodies are just different. It's like the 6-year-old he had mentioned earlier; his body is just not responding. He's in the hospital 3-4 times a year.”

Is there anything that you feel most people don't know or understand about CF?


Bubba: "I will say: One thing, he's not contagious. When people first hear about it, they think it's something else--like it's mental or physical. He's not contagious….he's not going to give it to you."

Heather: "It doesn't affect him mentally."

Bubba: "He's a normal kid. He can do everything that everyone else can. He just has to have different accommodations. He just has different battles. He has to drink more water, more gatorade because of the salt. When he sweats during the summer, you can actually see the salt beading up on his eyebrows."

Heather: "If you go on pinterest, you'll see all these funny CF memes. One says 'CF mamas be like 'just put a little salt on it.' And you barely see the french fries for the salt."

Bubba: "Everything he eats has to have salt on it. He sweats it out so fast!"

Heather: "And high fat. We can't do low-fat."

Bubba: "They can't say it's scientific…but they say typically the heavier a CF patient is, the better their lung function is."

Heather: "Pretty much what he burns he has to consume."

You touched on this a bit, but have you noticed medical advances from the when Bryce was first diagnosed and now?

Bubba: "I think when Bryce was first diagnosed, the life expectancy was 32 or 33. Now, it's at 39 and a half. That's just within 10 years.

Bryce: "There's someone who's 70 that has it."

Bubba: "It has definitely changed a lot. When Cystic Fibrosis first came about, there were kids dying at 2 or 3, and they had no idea what it was."

Heather: "And it's a relatively new illness. It was only first diagnosed in 1951 or 1952, I believe."

Bubba: "So, we see, every year, the changes."

Heather: "Definitely the life expectancy changes have been huge."

Bubba: "And now with Orkambi, there is no telling what it's going to be."

Bubba: "Something else that people don't realize is that it's one of the most expensive diseases out there. Between the medications, the vest, everything…it's very expensive. The Orkambi is $250,000 a year. Plumozyme is $100,000 a year. His Creon's are now up to $500-600 a month."

Heather: "His vitamins are free. Yay. Which he doesn't like to take. The ones that are most expensive are the newer ones, and the ones aimed at his lung function."

Are there special precautions, like during Flu season?

Bubba: "We all have to get flu shots, obviously. But like with get-togethers….say…with family…if someone has been coughing, I have to say 'I'm sorry, we won't be there.' And people do get mad at us sometimes. They don't understand how badly it can affect him. We're not trying to be mean! But if you have a runny nose, or have been coughing, we'll have to leave. It's hard for people to understand that."

Heather: "When he was hospitalized, what put him in the hospital was a common cold for you and me. He got it and it just spiraled."

Bryce: "They brought me toys every night at the hospital."

Heather: "Yes! I was like 'no wonder kids never want to leave!'"

Bubba: "And he got to meet the Pouncey twins. He got to meet baseball players. He got to meet the drummer off of Newsboys. I was putting together a new toy every single night. I was like 'stop bringing him toys! I'm tired of these legos, dadgumit!' (he laughs).

Heather: "Bryce enjoyed it; however, we went stir crazy! That's for sure."

Bubba: "Shands does a great job of taking care of them and making them feel important. We just hope we never have to go back."

Heather: "I told him--Dr. Abu-Hassan--He had come in and said 'You guys are leaving.' I said 'Good, because we aren't coming back!' He said 'Don't say that.' I said 'Nope, it took us 5 years to get here…' And you know what, on April 24, it was another 5 years since we've been there. And I'm not going back, I told him! (She laughs). I told him! I cannot wait to see him. I hope I see him."

Heather: "I think in the beginning of Bryce's diagnosis, because he was doing so well, they just thought we were being paranoid. But when he got hospitalized, and they found out it was from the common cold, they've amped it up a little. They'll now let us know if someone has been sick or something before a get-together so we don't go and risk Bryce getting sick. I think Bryce's hospitalization was a reality check for everyone."

Bubba: "This disease is serious. I think because he is so healthy, people take that for granted. And it stinks because he has to miss out on some things. He hates us for it. (Bryce and Bubba start laughing). We're hoping one day he'll understand. But even we take it for granted sometimes, because he's so healthy."

An article written in the Gilchrist County Journal when Bryce was selling T-shirts as a fundraiser.
Now, Bryce, other than the medicine, how is your routine different than your friends?

Bryce: "When I first wake up, I have to do my treatments. I have to take my medicine, obviously. I have to do my jacket twice a day, unless I’m sick. Then I have to do it every 4 hours."

Bubba: "Tell her about your vest."

Bryce: "It's a vest. It takes 30 minutes. I have to cough every time it beeps. It's to help break up the mucous."

Bubba: "You'll see shirts, like Heather said, on Pinterest, that say 'I beat my child nightly.' Before the vests came out, you literally had to beat your child on the chest."

Heather: "When we got the vest, it was $13,000, and we had to pay 10%. I like to tell people that it's kind of like a compressor. You have two vacuum hoses. As he grows, we call them up with the new measurements, and they send him a new jacket. It has a lifetime warranty.”

“You adjust it so that it covers his lungs, you buckle each strap in, tighten it up. He flips it on, and there is a quick start. It changes, it will compress really tight and shake loosely. Or it will compress really tight and shake fast. It just changes with every minute. It has 12 steps. That was something they told us from the get-go: "Do the quick start."

Bryce: "I'm up to 80%. Even sometimes 100% if I feel like it."

Heather: "That's how fast it shakes, and the compression he's at is 70%. When we went to the hospital, they had him on 30. He goes, 'You need to put it on 70.' And they were like 'What? Nobody ever does 70.' I was like 'We do. That's the automatic number on the quick start. He's been used to that since he was 3.' And like he said, some days he cranks it up to 100 if he's bored.”

"Once, Bryce dropped it, and it jammed the hoses into the machine. Luckily, they overnighted us a replacement. We boxed this one up, and sent it to them. They re-programmed it, updated it for us. They fixed it, even the wiring.”

“Shands is just floored by Bryce.”

Bubba: "Another thing about his routine is…He has to have blood glucose tests because he has a high chance of developing CF diabetes because of all of the sugar and such. We go every three months for a quarterly checkup, and we're there for 3 hours. They're checking his weight, they're checking his lungs, they're checking his PFTs…"

Bryce: "I always do good on those tests."

Bubba: "Because his lung function is good. We see psychiatrists, we see psychologists, we see dietitians, we see nutritionists. It's not fun, I'm not going to lie."

Heather: "You see basically every aspect of Shands when you're at CF clinic. And then the doctor comes in, you've got to talk to the doctor. Then the nurse comes back in…"

Bubba: "Which brings us to something else: When he's there, he has to wear a mask. CF people can't be within 6 feet of each other because of their germs. See, if I were to cough on him, it wouldn't be as bad as another CF patient coughing on him. Those germs are so much more high volatile. It could easily put him in the hospital (he snaps) like that. So basically, they're not able to be in the same room because their germs are just so much more highly contagious to one another."

Heather: "Even though we attend the same church, we have to be very careful of the functions that we attend with Eliza. There is a birthday party that we've been invited to, and they are going. I said 'I'm sorry, I would love to go, but we can't leave Bryce out. And that's okay."

Bubba: "We have to make sacrifices for our children. Even if I get a cold, I don't need to be around Bryce. It might take me 2 weeks to get over it, it might take him four months to get over it if it gets into his lungs. It could easily put him in the hospital."

Now if he's sick does he just not go to school?

Bubba: "It depends. If it's sinuses and it's draining, we'll send him to school. He doesn't like to miss school because he likes to hang out and socialize."

Heather: "Now, when he was younger…we were more cautious."

Bubba: "We pulled him out of daycare when we first found out he had CF, because of all the germs. Now, he likes to go to school. If he doesn't want to go to school, we can tell he's really sick."

Heather: "Usually we can tell, too, because he becomes really tired. The kid gave up naps when he was two. After two, he never wanted to take a nap. So, now, if he falls asleep during the day, we know something is up."



Bryce, what are some challenges that you face day-to-day?

Bryce: "Taking the Pulmozyme every day."

Heather (laughs): "Why don't you like to take the Pulmozyme?"

Bryce: "I don't know…because it's too much of a hassle to put together."

Heather: "What other challenges do you have?"

Bryce: "Not wanting to do my jacket on the weekends."

Bubba: "Friday night, Saturday and Sunday is a challenge because he wants to be a teenager."

Bryce: "Sunday nights I do it. I don't do it Saturday morning or Saturday nights sometimes."

Bubba: "Do you feel embarrassed when your friends are around?"

Bryce: "Not really."

Bubba: "Most of them want to try it out, anyways."

Heather: "All the cousins have tried it out except for the baby cousin. We even put it on my mom's dog once. He had congestive heart failure. My mom was like 'let's try it and see if it makes him better.' Bryce was like 'Okay!' He buckled him in and turned it on. He just sat there."

Bryce, if you could give any words of encouragement to someone with CF, what would they be?

Bryce: "Good luck."

Heather and Bubba, what words of encouragement would you give a parent who's child has been diagnosed with CF?

Heather: "It's not a death sentence. Don't look at it as that."

Bubba
: "It doesn't define you. It's a part of you, but do not let it define you. You have to take the bull by the horns, and pull up your big boy pants and deal with it. You have to say 'this is life," and move on. You can't sit there and dwell. There is a time to grieve, because it does suck. But you can't dwell on the negative. I know that it may seem harsh, but I think if you were to just sit there and dwell on the negative of this disease, it'll wear you down. It will consume you, and you won't be able to focus on your child. It's life-changing, and life-altering. As a parent, you give up a lot for your child. But as a parent of a child with CF, you really give up a lot. And I would do anything to make sure that he was doing okay and is healthy."

Heather: "It's not the same. We had to plan our day around his treatments, we had to always make sure medication was with us. We used to sanitize the table, our hands. People at restaurants would give us dirty looks, but I didn't care. I think I'm still like that to this day."

Bryce
: "We'll get to the restaurant and I forgot my medicine, and they get mad at me. (He laughs)."

Heather
: "We're trying to give him some responsibility. So we've told him, 'Okay, Bryce, you're going to start being responsible for your pills. You know we're walking out the door, you better have them.' Because I've always had them in my purse, Bubba's always had them in the car."

Bryce
: "But you have them in the glove compartment."

Heather
: "We have done that, because he's forgotten a lot. We've gotten all the way to Chiefland and I'll ask 'Bryce, you have your pills?' 'No.' Then the other boys are like 'Thanks a lot Bryce, now we've gotta go home!'"

Bryce laughs: "And I say, 'Well, I thought you had them in your car.'"

Heather: "But life is not the same. I don't think we would know what life without it is anymore. His first three years was full of stress and sickness. When he was first diagnosed, it devastated us…it broke our hearts. We were consumed with all the negativity of it. But come the new year, we were like 'New year=New life.' Whatever they told us to do, we did it. It was hard for Bryce. He had went 3 and a half years without having to do that routine. Without having to take all that medicine. He got angry."

Bubba: "That's why, to this day, he hates applesauce. When they're young, and not able to swallow pills, you have to break the enzyme pills up into applesauce. To this day, he hates applesauce."

Heather: "I think we were in Bar-B-Q Bills, and he swallowed his gum, and I wondered if he could swallow his pills. I asked him if he wanted to try and swallow his pills without the applesauce. He asked 'I can?' I said 'Yeah, you want to try it?' He put it in his mouth, and he swallowed it. He said, 'I swallowed it!' So, at 4, he was swallowing pills at 4."

Bryce: "Sometimes I can swallow them without water. People at school are amazed that I can swallow like 3 at the same time."

Heather: "And I think that the kids at school have grown up with him, so they have become accustomed to it. He actually got in trouble last year, because part of his label on his pill bottle got torn, and it was the part with his name. The teacher thought he was taking pills that weren't his. His classmates stood up and said 'No, those are Bryce's pills. He takes those every day.' It touched me to know that his classmates stood up for him and let the teacher know that it was something he had to do."

Are there any helpful websites that you would give to anyone interested in learning more about CF?


Heather: "The main one is the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation website: www.cff.org. That's what I tell everyone. Go there. Don't go anywhere else, but there. And I like pinterest, because it's funny. You can totally relate to the memes on there. There are times when I'll send them to Bryce and he'll laugh and say 'that's a good one.'"

When Bryce met the Pouncey Twins
What are some blessings that have come out of this?

Bubba: "I would say that meeting the Pouncey Twins was really cool. Getting their autograph, and getting a picture with them. He got to play Hot Wheels with them. You see these 250 lb. offensive linemen playing Hot Wheels with him."

Bryce: "I really wanted to meet Tim Tebow, but he was at the hospital that day."

Bubba: "This year was cool because he got to be the honorary guest at the Tailgate. It's a yearly fundraiser. Only one CF person gets to attend. And Bryce was chosen as the honorary guest. He got to make a wish. We went on a Nickelodeon cruise for 7 days, thanks to the Make A Wish Foundation. He got to ride in a limo."

Heather: "That was his big thing."

Bubba: "He got to choose between meeting Jeff Gordon, going on a Nickelodeon cruise, and there was something else…I can't remember now."

Bryce: "If I was asked now, I would choose to meet Jeff Gordon."

Heather: "He was all about a 'big boat' at that age. 'Big boat, big boat! I want to go on a big boat!'

Bubba
: "After a few days, we were like 'no more boats!'

Heather: "Yes, I don't ever want to go on another cruise again. But it was neat, we got to go to Puerto Rico. They had their own private island."

Bubba: "He gets to eat as much as he wants at school."

Bryce: "Sometimes, I'll go through all three lines in the lunchroom."

Bubba: "It's like the other night, he ate three sloppy joe sandwiches."

Heather: "That was the night before his bloodwork. He was like 'I'm not going to be able to eat tomorrow morning, I've gotta fill up!'"

What are some things that y'all are looking forward to in the future?

Heather: "Definitely the advancements of the medications. I do wholeheartedly believe that in Bryce's lifetime, they will have a cure for CF. Just for them to develop this Orkambi and Kalydeco,…you can almost taste it. It's right there. For them to develop a medication that can tell the defective cells 'stop what you're doing.'"

Bubba: "I'm looking forward to seeing what God has in store for Bryce's future. I know he's not much for public speaking now. But maybe it's going to be going and speaking and educating people. Letting people know that you can be this healthy, and you can overcome the struggles."

The Folds were part of the Top Fundraising Team and Top Individual Fundraiser for Great Strides in 2008.