Showing posts with label 15 Minutes of Fame. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 15 Minutes of Fame. Show all posts

Thursday, November 9, 2017

Small Town Shout-Out: Mrs. Donna Creamer And The TDC

Mrs. Donna Creamer.  Photo Credit: Chris Rogers.
When I vacation, I tend to be drawn to small, quaint towns. I will never be a big city girl. Sure, the lights and entertainment may draw you in for a short time, but small towns will forever hold my heart.

The old Fanning Springs Bridge
In writing lately about the small towns that I recently visited in Georgia, I realized something…I haven't written a piece specifically about OUR small town charm. I don't know about y'all, but I feel so blessed and so fortunate to live in this area. This could surely be described as "God's Country." The food we serve will win your heart, and our hospitality will soothe your soul. Our Southern drawls will draw you in, and our scenic farms will take your breath away.

The Olive Tree Grove
A North Gilchrist Farm.  Photo by Chester Keith Ruggles, Jr.
At the very pulse of Gilchrist County, you will find Mrs. Donna Creamer. Bless her heart, she wears a plethora of hats--one of them being a member of the Tourist Development Council. On Monday, I had a chance to sit down with Mrs. Donna and talk about Gilchrist County's Tourist Development Council (TDC). 

The Suwannee River
Wannee Boat Ramp.  Photo Credit: Michelle Bruckbauer.
Tell me a little bit about the Tourism Development Council.

The Gilchrist County Tourist Development Council is a nine member advisory board whose members are appointed by the Board of County Commissioners. The TDC develops the plan for tourism development and marketing and makes recommendations to the Board of County Commissioners for the use of Tourist Development Tax Revenue

Gilchrist County Pursuant to Section 125.0104(4), Florida Statute, Gilchrist County established the Gilchrist County Tourist Development Council, indicating the intention of the county to consider the enactment of an ordinance levying and imposing the Tourist Development Tax. The 2 percent tax was placed on the 2006 ballet and the Gilchrist County voters voted yes. 

The Gilchrist County Courthouse
What is your role in the TDC?

I research, develop, and enhance visitor information for Gilchrist County to stimulate tourism growth in order to produce economic benefits. In addition, I produce promotional materials and displays, write reports, and keep the financial records.

Hart Springs Run.  Photo Credit: Mrs. Donna Creamer.
What have been some of the opportunities that you’ve been given through the TDC?

The opportunity of working with the TDC and Visit North Florida Tourism Task is really a dream come true. I’ve had the opportunity to travel both nationally and internationally showcasing our beautiful rural area of Florida. I love highlighting our springs and the wonders of our aquifer system. My favorite trip so far has been Berlin, Germany. The history of Berlin, the Holocaust memorial, and the Berlin Wall were breath-taking. The reminders of a city divided are prominent; and yet the people there are so friendly. 

Snorklers at Ginnie Springs.  Photo credit: Bill Kilborn.
What is the most rewarding part of working with the TDC?

The opportunity to educate visitors that Florida has more to offer guests than just beaches and theme parks. Our northern region is the hidden jewel of Florida. It has a plethora of places to explore and gives visitors the opportunity to get off the well-traveled path.

Suwannee Shores.  Photo Credit: Michelle Bruckbauer.
How do we find out more? 

Like our page on Facebook:  www.facebook.com/Gilchrist-County-Tourist-Development-Council-961023070675670

And take time to visit our County website at:  www.VisitGilchristCounty.com

A mural painted on a building in Downtown Trenton, highlighting the Suwannee Valley Quilt Festival.
Log Landing.  Photo Credit: Chester Keith Ruggles, Jr.

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Jennifer Gonzales

Artistic Soul of Chiefland
In the same building as That Place Salon in mid-Chiefland, sits a red door. Behind that red door is a sanctuary for the tattoo artist and local, Jennifer Gonzales.

Fun Aleta fact: I love tattoos.

I know, I know, around these parts you either hear “Ooooh, what tattoo did you get?” Or people shake their heads thinking you’re bound for Hell and eternal damnation. I’ll be frank, it’s just not even worth it for me to get into a discussion with a person believing the latter.

To me, tattoos are art. They are a permanent testament to the things that I love and/or hold dear. If questioned, most tattoo-bearing people would have some story behind each piece. A tattoo that they got with their best friend. A picture of a place that they love. A memorial tattoo. A special quote. Lyrics that have some meaning to them. To undergo the tattoo needle, for any length of time, there is typically a story there.

While I had often thought about getting a tattoo, my little sister wound up beating me to it. It’s almost laughable now. I vividly remember my mom asking her “it’s going to be a small one, right?...like 2 inches?” Rheba came home with a massive piece on her back. Okay, okay, admittedly mom may still not find it as funny as I do.

Something I remember, though, is the time Rheba put in contacting the tattoo artist, and the effort that Jennifer put into making sure Rheba’s tattoo was everything she wanted it to be. Even though Jenn’s husband was ultimately the one who did Rheba’s tattoo, I was so impressed with the time and effort they put into Rheba’s tattoo. Rheba could not have been happier with it, and it has always meant a lot to her.

I'm often nervous walking into a new interview with someone that I don't know so well. Upon knocking on the red door, Jennifer greeted me and put me immediately at ease. She is such a warm spirit.

Jennifer is both creative and quirky. A woman who's priorities go God, family, friends, then work; a rarity in this day and age. She is one of the most loving, giving, compassionate individuals you could ever happen upon.

Jennifer identifies as an empath. An extraordinary quality that only adds to exceptional artistry. Emotions effect her, overwhelm her. And if you are someone she knows really well, there is no sense hiding how you’re feeling, she will see right through it.

As I often am, I was incredibly blessed to have met Jenn; and in doing so, have made a new friend. I hope that you will enjoy her interview.

Jennifer Gonzales
If you could choose one fictional character that best embodies you, which one would it be?

"A combination: Phoebe from Friends, and Punky Brewster."

What has been your vacation?

"Orlando. We rented a big house for all of our family, our employees and their families. We stayed there for a week. We went to Disney, but it was great. There was just no stress. The greatest part was having everyone that I loved all in one place. We just had a really great week."

Jenn and her family at a Friday night football game.
From Chiefland, how did you wind up in Ormond Beach?

"When I was 18, I went to get my first tattoo. That was where I met my husband. We later moved to New Jersey, then we moved back to Gainesville. I actually worked at Bodytech for quite a while. Then, we decided to venture out on our own and since we had been to two cities, we decided to go to the beach!"

Jennifer and her mom
What is bringing you back to Chiefland?

"My daddy is bringing me back to Chiefland. He's my heart. He's my best friend. He has saved me. He is what has brought me back.  My mother passed away recently, and it really opened my eyes to the fact that we're never promised another day.  I just want to spend as much time as I can with my dad."

Jennifer and her dad
Tell me a little bit about the business and the upcoming changes. 

"We opened our shop in Ormond on December 8, 2007. The new Chiefland shop will be opening July 7th. It will be by appointment only. I am going to be traveling back and forth to Ormond every other week, because we are keeping that shop as well. I will have a new apprentice, Cheryl Langston Barron."

"This new shop is like my sanctuary. It has a red door, because every happy home should have a red door. It's like walking through love. Everything is love. The artwork that is on the walls…Every piece of artwork is from people who inspire me, every piece is custom, every piece was made for me."

"I am looking forward to a slower pace here. When you're growing up, you can't wait to get out of here, but once you have kids, you can't wait to be back home."

"We are now accepting appointments for the new shop!"


Do you have a favorite tattoo that you've ever done?

"I don't have a favorite. I literally put my heart into every tattoo. And I hide hearts in every tattoo I do."

Jenn and her family enjoying a movie night
How do you handle the role of wife, mother, and business owner?

Lanie: "Like a boss bitch."

Jenn: "I can't. I don't know that I can say I 'handle it.' Whatever I'm doing at the moment, that is what I'm focused on. I will say, my mind is always running. I am always over-thinking. But these are my priorities: God, family, friends, and then work. When I'm with my kids, I put my all into spending time with them. When I'm with my husband, I put my all into spending time with him. When I'm at work, I put my all into that."

"My husband is my saving grace. He is my rock. He balances me."

What is the best part of your job?

"Seeing people happy. Fixing a mistake. Some people think that memorial tattoos might be hard to do, but I love doing them. Giving someone something to remember someone by. It's like giving someone a chapter as closure to a book."

Brent's Rose
An example of this would be Brent Rose. 

"Brent had me do a very specific rose for him that was all the different colors in the rainbow.  I asked him the significance and it was that he loved life.  The colors represented life.  Because of all of the colors, and all of the blending, I joked that that specific rose would just be Brent's rose.  I wouldn't do another like it.  He laughed and said 'I think you'll do a few more.'  Literally the day after he called me to schedule his next appointment, he passed away.  He'd said I would do a few more, and I did.  I gave several of his family members that tattoo to remember Brent by.  I remember giving his fiancĂ© that tattoo, and we were both weeping." 


What is the hardest part of your job?

(She laughs) "Paying taxes. It's extremely hard to own your own business. Many people do not understand the struggles to owning your own business."

Jenn and her Mother-In-Law
What advice would you give to a young person interested in becoming a tattoo artist?

"My Mother-In-Law was the one that really pushed me to become a tattoo artist.  My husband taught me, but my Mother-In-Law was the one that pushed me to use it.  She told me once, 'Never rely on a man.  God forbid, if something were ever to happen to Mike, you would need to support yourself and your kids.'  She was what really drove me to start tattooing.  For that, I am forever thankful."

"It takes an immense amount of dedication. Do not give up. If one person tells you no, find another person. If that person tells you no, find another person. Never give up. And the old adage is true…practice makes perfect."

"You're only as good as your last tattoo. I still get shocked at people wanting me to tattoo them. I still get butterflies."


What is something that you wish more people understood?

"People don't always understand what goes into tattooing.  I spend hours either days before, or the night before, drawing up a tattoo.  Stretching someone's skin for hours on end is not easy.  There are nights I go home, and my hands are sore, and my eyes are nearly crossed.  It's harder than one might think."

Jenn's best friend, Jimmy Rogers, drew this for her.
What is something that most people don't know about you?

"I'm scared of dying.  I'm scared of roaches. I LOVE donuts….donuts, unicorns, and mermaids. I also love the smell of wood."


What is something that you're looking forward to in the future?

"Sunday dinners at my dad's house."


To see more of their artwork and to contact the shop, go to: https://www.facebook.com/ArtisticSoulTattoo

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Local Spotlight: C. Hill Photography

So, a few years ago, I started seeing some beautiful photos begin popping up on my Facebook newsfeed. I started seeing more and more of this "C. Hill Photography." And the images were just incredible. I was so excited to learn she and I had a good, mutual friend in common. At that moment, I just knew I needed her on my blog!  What great artists we have in our little area!

Candice Hildebrandt of C. Hill Photography
Tell me a little bit about yourself and your business:

I am a 30-something mother of 3 boys, who’s been married for 17 years to my high school sweetheart. I have been a stay-at-home mom since my first son was born. My passion has pretty much always been the arts, particularly photography. Even as a teen, I was always taking pictures. In our early marriage years, my husband gifted me a camera upgrade just about every Christmas. When the boys came along it was more than art, I began to have this need to document every moment I spent with them. I would even take them every 3 months or so to the local JC Pennys or Sears to have images taken. One time in particular, the photographer asked why I wanted a specific picture if my son wasn’t smiling. I replied “I may be an awful Mom, but he doesn’t walk around with a cheese grin plastered to his face 100% of the time. I want to remember him for who he is in this moment too.”

That’s around the time I decided it was up to me to get those “in between” moments. Honestly, it was a nudge from my husband that prompted the whole business thing. He thought I should do this for others. I picked out my first DSLR and taught myself how to use it. That was in 2010. Since then, my passion for photography has morphed into a passion for memory preservation. I love documenting families and the ever-changing emotions of children. I’m still a sucker for those “in between” moments too.

What are the perks of owning your own business?

Being able to create my own schedule it definitely a good one. But that only came after the early years. One of my faves though, all the traveling I have been blessed to be able to do.

What are some of the downfalls to owning your own business?

The hustle and bustle definitely takes its toll. Also, I’m an artist… I’m not a great bookkeeper, or marketer or even a great decision maker LOL! But I think I’ve made it work!

Have you always been drawn to photography?

I have always loved looking at pictures and deciphering motivation. When I was a teen, I had a camera in my hand at all times, if I could help it.

What inspires you?

Life. We are all on such an incredible journey.

As a photographer, what is something you wish more folks understood?


My expensive camera is only as good as the person behind it.

What are some things you are looking forward to in the future?

I am looking forward to focusing more on families. Weddings, while beautiful, have become a tad too commercial for my taste.

Where can you find her?

Website: http://photographybychill.com
Email: candice@photographybychill.com
The book of faces : https://www.facebook.com/photographybychill/
Instagram: @candiceeh
Twitter: @chill_photog

Saturday, May 13, 2017

Adrienne Caudill

Adrienne and Keegan at her High School Graduation.
Mrs. Adrienne Caudill

Tell me a little about yourself.


I grew up in Florida, and moved to Chiefland when I was 10. I consider Chiefland my “home town.” I met my husband Keegan for the first time when I was 11 or 12 but we didn’t start dating until years later when I was a senior in high school. When we decided to get engaged, it really made a lot of sense to us, but looking back I can see exactly why everyone thought we were crazy! He was in the army already so right after high-school graduation we got married and I moved out to Texas, near Fort Hood. He actually deployed to Iraq later that year so I moved back home and started school. Over the last 10 years we’ve lived in 6 different states and are about to move into our 8th home. We have 3 hilarious and fun children, and we are expecting our 4th in August. Life as a military spouse has been a challenging but exciting adventure. I enjoy exploring new places and meeting all sorts of people! There are a lot of difficult moments but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. As a family we love being outdoors, hiking, and enjoying God’s creation. In the last year or two we made a “bucket list” goal to visit all (or as many as we can) of America’s national parks. We hit some really cool ones on our cross-country road trip last year, including the Redwoods, Alcatraz Island, Chaco Canyon, and the Grand Canyon. We’ve also been to the Olympic Rainforest, Mount Rainier, Mount Rushmore, & the Badlands, to name a few. Just last month we spent a few days in Georgia and visited Cumberland Island National seashore which was absolutely breathtaking. I love that my husband’s job takes us all around the country and we love getting to share the experience with our kids. As for me personally, I enjoy gardening, reading, cooking & baking, and being a mom! I’m a semester away from finishing my bachelor’s degree and people keep asking when/where I’m going to work, so I always feel a bit strange when I tell them I’m going to shelf my diploma indefinitely and continue to stay home with my kids. I feel like we have a lot of different callings in our life, but for right now I definitely feel called to be at home with them. We made the decision to homeschool the year our oldest was going to start kindergarten. We knew we’d be moving in the middle of the school year, and since I was already teaching him a lot of things at home it made the most sense to just keep him home. That has kind of spilled over into each year and next year I’ll be homeschooling a 2nd and 1st grader, (plus juggling the 2 little guys.) Our school choice has provided a lot of flexibility for our military lifestyle and it has been a real blessing to our family. I don’t know if we will do it forever, but so far it has worked out really well. I always say I’m taking it one year at a time!

What fictional character do you feel is most like you?

This is an interesting question...I feel like I’m a good mash-up of Hermione Granger, Leslie Knope. And Mary Poppins.

Of all of the paces you've traveled, what has been your favorite trip/place?

This is tough to answer because we’ve visited a lot of amazing places and they are hard to compare, however one of my favorite places in the world is the Olympic peninsula in Washington state. From rocky pacific coastlines to stunning rainforests---that place is heavenly. I get sort of homesick for it sometimes.

Tell me about your wedding.

I was 18, he was 19. We were married in the pre-pinterest era, which I’m glad for because I didn’t have a lot of crazy expectations. We were married at First Baptist Church in Chiefland and my uncle officiated the ceremony. It was short and sweet and we held a reception at the Tommy Usher center in Chiefland. We didn’t have any time for a honeymoon because the army only allowed him a few days of leave and we had to pack up and move out to Texas.

What advice would you give young married couples?

Marriage is hard. Harder than you think --- Anything I can think of to say sounds so clichĂ©….be willing to compromise. Give in on things that aren’t worth the fight. Respect the other person, their feelings, their interests, their style….it will all be be different than yours, but accept it. Accept in advance that they will have vices, but know that we ALL are works in progress. Talk to each other. Ask your spouse for their opinion on things. Set up guard rails. Don’t always “follow your feelings,” because sometimes what feels good in the moment isn’t the right thing. 

Liam, Leif, and Raleigh
If you could sum up each of your children with one word, what would those words be?

Liam: “curious.” Raleigh: “free-spirit.” Leif: “handful.”

What has been the toughest moment you have experienced as a military wife?

Military life provides lots of tough moments. The first ones that come to mind are all the moments when your spouse has been gone, whether it be for a week or several months, and you’re just flat out tired of doing everything alone. I also think about the times you have to pick up and move and say goodbye to so many people you love dearly. But there’s nothing like experiencing the loss of a friend, a soldier, a child’s father, your friends husband --- sometimes it is someone close to you and sometimes it’s someone you knew only casually, but if you’ve done this lifestyle long enough you’ve experienced it, and it’s never easy.

What are some of the blessings that you have experienced as a military wife?

Hands down the people. There is a unique quality about the military and how it brings people together. First of all, there are a bunch of people, all living hundreds/thousands of miles away from their “homes” and “real families,” all thrown together to be co-workers and friends and neighbors and you just sort of share in the uniqueness of your situation and become each other’s families. Second of all, no one else understands the ins and outs of the military life except other military families. Military friend/family bonds are strong. At every duty-station we’ve been to we have developed close family-like relationships with friends there. The neat part is how you are bound to cross paths again over the years. As we speak, I’m crashing at an old friend from Fort Bragg’s home as I drive across the eastern US on a trip. My husband is out in Arizona for training for a few months, and he’s had countless dinners with some old military friends of ours that are stationed there now, and he spent Easter Sunday with some dear friends of ours that we knew in Washington. I have close friends from New England, California, Texas, the Phillipines, and countless other places. Military families are diverse and that makes for interesting friendships! 


Tell me a little about each of the places you've been stationed/lived?

1. We started out in Texas at Fort Hood. Texas is a great place and the people are amazingly hospitable and kind there. We did quite a bit of exploring and our favorite city was definitely San Antonio.

2. We moved to Virginia next--over on the Eastern part about an hour from the coast. Our time in Virginia was short but that area was packed with neat things to do. We lived right between the James and York rivers. We got to visit the location of the original colony of Jamestown, as well as so many other interesting places.

3. We lived in North Carolina for 3 years at Fort Bragg. We loved it there because we were close enough to home to visit for holidays. We met a lot of really great friends in North Carolina. Our daughter Raleigh was born there and her namesake is NC’s capital city!

4. After North Carolina we moved to Washington state for 3 years. It didn’t take us long to fall in love with Washington. Everything people say about the weather is 100% true. It rains a lot and it’s grey and cloudy for a lot of the year…but the summers couldn’t be more perfect. It’s glorious and everywhere you go everyone is outside soaking it up. The rest of the year you just have to learn to embrace it and go out anyways. The mountains and the evergreens and the Puget sound make for a breathtaking scenery. We love the culture of the Pacific Northwest.

5. We left Washington and moved to upstate New York, outside Fort Drum. We bought our first home there and thought we’d be staying for 3 years, but that turned into about 9 months, ha! Upstate New York is very rural. There were lots of rolling hills and farms. And Amish people! I always had to try so hard not to stare at the Amish people because I was so fascinated with their way of life. We experienced out first “real winter” this past winter. The locals say it “wasn’t that bad,” but I beg to differ. The snow is beautiful when it’s falling and you’re tucked away inside cozy and warm. Waking up to negative -10 degrees and needing to shovel out your vehicle isn’t too fun, lol. We were looking forward to exploring more in New York but now we’re headed back to NC. Maybe the army will bring us and NY together again some day!

What are some of the cool "local" digs/things you've experienced at each of those places?


There are so many neat places we’ve visited over the years, but I always loved being able to go to random little coffee stands in Washington to get a good cup of joe. They weren’t full-fledged coffee shops…just little closet sized stands in parking lots and on corners where you could get coffee. They were everywhere and it was amazing. We also loved Astoria, Oregon. We visited several times and there was a coffee roasterie there that we loved, and a little hole-in-the-wall seafood place that had the best chowder.

What are some of the funniest things your kids have said?


My kids….man they’ve said some ridiculous things. I should be better about writing them down but I never do. I remember once when Liam was like 3 he was eating a popsicle and I guess he got brain freeze because he said, “Mom! It’s freezing my ideas!” Raleigh used to have some very involved imaginary friends. One of them was named Gracious, and I remember one time when Raleigh was 2 or 3 we were driving down the road when out of nowhere Raleigh told me, “Well mom, Gracious is dead. I hit her on the head with my hello kitty lunchbox.” I didn’t really know what to say! They keep me laughing, that’s for sure.

Thursday, May 11, 2017

Patricia Botton


Shawn and Patricia Botton
Mrs. Patricia Botton
Tell me a bit about yourself.

I am a 29 year old mother of three. I have an almost 9 year old daughter, Gabriella, an almost 6 year old son, Isaiah, and a year and a half old son, Octavius. I was born and raised in a small town right outside of Gainesville, Florida. We just recently relocated to Jacksonville, North Carolina after my husband, Shawn, a SSgt in the United States Marine Corps, finished his tour on the drill field in South Carolina.

Tell me about your wedding.

Well, our love story is probably different from most that you hear about. We actually didn't have a "wedding." We met in November of 2006 and when he was home on leave a few months later, I asked him to marry me. I think I caught him off guard when I asked him, but it surprised me even more when he said yes. So we went to the courthouse in Gainesville and applied for our marriage license, not knowing that we would have to wait 3 days before we could receive it. So we explained to the ladies that were helping us that we didn’t have time to wait the 3 days, as he was getting ready to deploy overseas. They said “why didn’t you tell us sooner”, and allowed us to get married in an adjacent room. Both of those wonderful women were our witnesses and a judge was our officiant. I think the hardest part, looking back, is that none of our family or friends were there to celebrate with us.

How long have you been married?

Shawn and I have been married for 10 years. These past 10 years haven’t been easy on either one of us, but it has always been worth it.

What is your husband’s occupation in the military?

My husband's occupation in the Marine Corps is a Heavy Equipment Operator. He gets to be outside, working on all these huge heavy pieces of equipment, and he probably wouldn’t have it any other way. I have come to learn one major thing about my husband; he could probably never have a desk job. He always has to be on the move; and thankfully, this job allows him to do just that.

What are some of the blessings that you experienced as a military wife?

I think one of the biggest blessings as a military wife is that I have proven to myself that I am one tough behind woman. Dealing with three kids on a day-to-day basis is hard. But then, when your husband has to go on a work up, go to another state or country for a few weeks, or deploy, my job just got 10 times harder. I have been shown that I will have great days and I will have bad days, but I will get through them all and I will be a better person because of it. But let’s be honest here…we all know that the friends we make at every duty station help us through it all. Being a military spouse has allowed me to meet some of the greatest and strongest women I know, and it has allowed me to build some of the best friendships that I have ever had. I am able to ask for their honest opinions, learn from things that they may have gone through, or cry on their shoulder if I need to. The women that I have had the opportunity to call friends have shown me what true friendship is, and for that I am forever thankful.

What are some of the struggles that you have/are facing as a military wife?

Some of the struggles that I have faced being a military spouse aren't easy to talk about. I think one of the worst struggles is when my husband deploys or is gone for months at a time. It takes a toll on both him and I, but more so our kids. Seeing my kids break down when their father leaves truly breaks my heart, and as a mom all I want to do is fix it! But in those moments you can’t, so you try to make it as easy for them as you can. Thankfully Facetime helps!

I think another struggle is the fact that my kids have to say goodbye to their friends. I can remember growing up and the kids that I went to elementary and middle school with are who I graduated high school with. Seeing my kids have to say goodbye to their friends, and knowing we may never cross paths with them again is heartbreaking. I know it will only get worse as my kids get older, but I am hopeful that I can continue to make those transitions as easy as I can.

Shawn, Isaiah, Gabriella, Patricia, and Octavius
How has life been different for your children than other kids their age?

I feel like life is different for my kids versus other kids because they don’t get to experience growing up in the same neighborhood, with the same kids. My parents still live in the same home where I was raised. My kids are lucky enough to be able to travel and experience different places, but as children they need to have as much consistency as possible. Being a military child doesn’t give you that.

I also feel like my kids get exposed to a lot more “real life situations” than other kids their age. Being a part of the military lifestyle, I have the unpleasant job of trying to explain to my kids why one of our friends has PTSD, or what happened to the man they saw whose face was burned. There have been situations where I have had to explain to my children why they won’t ever get to see one of mommy and daddy’s friends again. Having to explain these things to young children are not easy. Especially when the answer you give is then followed up by more questions. I can’t shelter my kids from a lot of things that I want to shelter them from.

Where all have you been stationed?


We have been stationed at four different bases. Our first duty station was Marine Corps Air Station Cherry Point, NC. Our second duty station was Marine Corps Air Station Beaufort, SC. Our third duty station was Marine Corps Recruit Depot Parris Island, SC (luckily this is in the same area as the Air Station in Beaufort and we didn't have to move). Our fourth duty station, which we are currently at, is Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune, NC.

What advice would you give a young military bride?

I think the advice that I would give a young military bride is to try to be patient. I have learned over the years that patience is a virtue. Being in this lifestyle there is a lot of "hurry up and wait." Things can change at the drop of a dime, and there is nothing you can do about it. You just have to adjust to the curve ball that is thrown at you and learn to make it work. Everything will work out in the end, so just sit back and try to enjoy the ride.

What is something that most people do not realize about military life that you wish they understood?

I think the biggest thing that people may not realize is that the pay isn’t that amazing. I knew absolutely nothing about military pay or benefits when Shawn and I got married. I assumed military pay was way better than the minimum wage that I was making. It wasn’t until he told me I had to come get an ID card and give some of my information to DEERS that I finally started asking him questions and found out exactly what he made. I was surprised at the answer he gave me. We are blessed to be able to have his income, and it allows for us to have our home and put food on our table and take care of our kids. But we aren't swimming in money. Most military families struggle and have to live paycheck to paycheck, just like normal families.

I think another thing people don’t realize about military life is there are so many stereotypes that come along with being a military wife/spouse. I wish people wouldn't be so quick to judge. Everyone in this lifestyle has had some type of trial or tribulation, so who are you to judge someone before you ever try to get to know them. The person you end up judging could have been one of the best friends you would have ever made. I truly believe that there is a reason I have crossed paths with every person that I have met in this lifestyle. Whether it is to break me down, make me a better person, or for me to help someone I’ve met. There is a reason for it all, and I will always be thankful for those who have helped me navigate this crazy, fun-filled world.

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Kelly Perry

Curt, Kelly, Arabella and Little Curt
Mrs. Kelly Perry

Tell me a bit about yourself.

My name is Kelly, I’m 31 years young. Born and raised in Chiefland, Florida. I am the youngest girl of seven children and daughter to two hardworking parents. I’m currently a stay at home mom of two strong spirited children, Arabella (6) and Little Curt (2); and wife to an Army Soldier, SFC Perry, Curtis.

Tell me about your wedding.

Our wedding was just amazing. We were married at Ellzey Methodist Church in Ellzey, Florida on December 18th, 2004. It was the cutest little white Church in the middle of nowhere, picture perfect. Our wedding was small and intimate, just the way we wanted it. I remember being so anxious to see Curt. It had been a while since we had seen each other since he lived in Texas, and I lived in Florida. He flew in the morning of our wedding, so I didn’t get to see him at all beforehand. I’ll never forget his smile as I entered the Church. Curt has a smile that can light up a room, with those huge dimples... I just melted, still do.

How long have you been married?

We’ve been married for twelve years this past December.

What is your husband’s occupation in the military?

Currently Curt is an OC (Observer- Controller) for OPSGRP (Operations Group) at JRTC (Joint Readiness Training Center). The JRTC OPSGRP provides training to Military Forces in a realistic environment to achieve Army readiness.

What are some of the blessings that you experienced as a military wife?

One of the biggest blessings are the people you meet and the relationships you make. They’re not just friends to us, they become our family. We spend holidays together, we celebrate our children’s birthdays together, we support each other, and help each other just the way a family would do. It really is something special.

What are some of the struggles that you have/are facing as a military wife?

Time! Time is our worst enemy; he steals so much of it whether it’s because of field training, duty, schooling, their everyday job or deployments. They are just gone so much and miss so much. So many birthdays, holidays and milestones celebrated without them. Deployments are a given struggle, it really needs no explanation. To be separated from your spouse for nine or twelve months… it’s not easy and you never get used to it, no matter how many times they deploy! And let’s not forget the emotions you experience until they are safely home and in your arms again; it can be overwhelming if you let it consume you.

How was life different for your children, than other kids their age?

The moving! Having to say goodbye to your home and friends, it’s difficult. I’m dreading the day when we move from here, especially now that Arabella is in school and has made so many sweet friends. Also, only having one parent for long periods of time; and one parent is not comparable to two, not by a long shot. It’s one of the big reasons why I’m a stay at home mom; I’m their constant, their security. I am so proud of them, though. They truly give me strength. The things these children endure at such a young age; they are strong, adaptable, brave, and resilient.

Where all have you been stationed?

Our first Duty Station was Fort Hood, Texas. Our second was Fort Benning, Georgia; and our third and present Duty Station is Fort Polk, Louisiana. We really loved Georgia, and now, Louisiana. We welcomed Arabella at Benning and Little Curt at Polk; so many fond and happy memories have been made.

What advice would you give a young military bride?

Don’t be shy like I was/am. Get out and meet new people. Attend FRG (Family Readiness Group) meetings, join a group/club, and get involved. Being a Military spouse can be so lonely at times. It really is beneficial to have a great, small group of friends to surround yourself with during those times. Use every hardship and situation you may face as an opportunity for growth. Always conduct yourself in a lady-like manner; our behavior is a direct reflection upon our Soldier. Also, be supportive and an encourager to your spouse. They don’t have the easiest of jobs and they really need us in their corner cheering them on!

What is something most people do not realize about military life that you wish they understood?

That it’s worth it! Even with the hardships, the unpredictability, the deployments, and the thief of time. I couldn’t imagine our life any different. I couldn’t imagine Curt being anything else but a Soldier. He loves what he does, and I love him even more for that. The people, new places, new adventures, it has been so amazing. Do I dream of an 8-5 job for Curt? My children graduating with the same kids they grew up with? Planting roots? Of course I do, but we wouldn’t be who we are without what we’ve been through.

Tuesday, May 9, 2017

Summer Tillis Bailey


Summer Tillis Bailey
Mrs. Summer Tillis Bailey

Tell me a little bit about yourself.

I am a 34-year-old mother of two. I have a 4-year-old son, Wyatt and a 2-year-old daughter, Lorelei. I grew up in Chiefland and graduated from Florida State University with a Bachelors in Humanities with a concentration in Asian Studies. I now reside in Okinawa, Japan, with my husband Adam, a United States Marine Corps SSgt, our two kids and our Boxer named Tucker. We are set to PCS (Permanent Change of Station) to Camp Pendleton in California in a couple of months.

What is your favorite movie?

Do I really have to pick just one movie? I love Steel Magnolias, Hope Floats, A League of Their Own, 9 to 5, Hocus Pocus, Something's Got To Give, The Goonies, and Schindler's List.

Of all the places you’ve traveled, what has been your favorite place?

As a Humanities major, I had the great privilege to participate in several study abroad programs. My favorite place would have to be Rome. The history, rich culture, and food are out of this world! I had the honor of touring the Catacombs located under the Vatican and see first-hand the Tomb of St. Peter. It was indescribable.

Adam and Summer on their wedding day.
Tell me about your wedding.

Adam proposed on my birthday, September 5, 2010 while we were having a Taco Bell picnic during a trip I made to visit him in Maryland. I was still living in Gainesville at the time and we had decided on an April 2011 wedding so that Adam had enough time to request leave. Well, plans change and the only day that was available for both our DJ and photographer was December 11, 2010. We got married that day...just 3 months after we were engaged...and I wasn't pregnant!! With three weeks left until the wedding, our caterer was arrested for tax evasion and his restaurant was shut down, but the Mitchell Brothers came to the rescue! The day finally came and it was perfect. We were married under a huge oak tree at Rustic Ranch in Newberry in front of our family and friends. We left Florida on December 14th with a U-Haul full of junk to start our life together as husband and wife in Maryland. 

Lorelei, Adam, Summer, and Wyatt
What are some of the blessings that you’ve experienced through military life?

First off, I learned real quick that I am tougher than I ever gave myself credit for. I learned that I could live 10 hours away from my family and friends (7000 miles away now) and have my husband leave and I survived; and now my kids survive too. I have learned that every day is a blessing and to not take a single day for granted. Death, PTSD, TBI, they are all very real in our community. The friends I have made while living this life have been such a blessing. I love my life-long friends and my college friends, don't get me wrong; but there is something special about friends who understand the struggles you face daily and who bond together to get through deployments or operations. Although, we will eventually go to new duty stations, it is a small military and eventually our paths will cross again and I love that! 


What are some of the struggles you have faced in military life?

Saying "goodbye" or "see you later" is truly difficult. Especially when it comes to my kids. My son said goodbye to his first best friend last summer and still to this day, he asks about him...this is the reality of military life. Military kids move schools and have to start over more times than many can count. When I was a child, the same kids that I attended Kountry Kids with are the same children I graduated high school with. Military kids spend their whole childhood starting over...new friends, new towns, new countries, new schools. On a lighter note, houses!! You buy furniture to fill your home, 3 years later you move to a new house and there isn't room for all of your stuff, so you sell it or give it away to only repeat the process every 3 years until your spouse separates from the military or retires. Obviously, it's difficult being away from friends and family and not having a lot of help. You miss births, weddings, graduation, funerals and the lives of people you care about deeply. It's hard not having a lot of help around. I think our marriages suffer because we don't get a lot of alone time, date nights, etc. because there aren't a lot of people you can ask for help outside of strangers. My heart breaks for military kids because they can't understand why daddy (or mommy) has to miss birthdays, holidays, school events, etc. and you can't make it better. You buy calendars and let the kids mark the days off, you buy daddy dolls so they can fall asleep hugging their daddy. You wipe away more tears than you can count because they just want their parent. 

Summer, Adam, Lorelei and Wyatt the day that Adam was promoted to SSgt.
What advice would you give to a young military wife?

My advice would be to not lose yourself. There is this myth in the military community that says “in order to a ‘good wife’ you must network and be seen.” Malarke! If you want to sit home and be a hermit, do it, it doesn't make you any less of a spouse. Just do you and don't let anyone make you feel guilty for being who you are. If you want to go to college, then go. If you want to spend all your free time with your kids, work outside the house, feed the hungry, do it. You can still be a wonderful, supportive spouse without completely involving yourself in your husband's career. Ask yourself, “If I look back at this time in my life, will the choices I made make me happy or will I always feel like I put myself on a back burner?” You are in control of your own happiness. 

A Cherry Blossom at Nikijin Castle
How is life in Okinawa different? How is it the same?

Obviously, the language barrier is huge. Our children actually speak quite a bit of Japanese which makes me worry a little about returning to the states. Some people miss the access to everything and the convenience of being in the states...I enjoy the escape. You definitely are forced to step outside your comfort zone. We drive on the opposite side of the road on the opposite side of the car. It's the same in the sense because I have my husband and kids and that's all I need. The Okinawans remind me of southerners. Their hospitality and kindness are on a level all its own. You don't tip off-base because they feel that top notch customer service is expected and deserved by everyone. They feel that their compensation is enough. We have tried our best to embrace their culture and to let our children know that peaceful, kind lives are the way to go. I feel like many Americans can learn a thing or two from the Okinawans. The food is very different, but fun to try new things. We always try everything that is given to us and there are definitely some things that once was enough...Goya, bean paste, fermented beans...yeah, no! 

Summer and Lorelei with Summer's Coworker dressed in a traditional Okinawan outfit
How long did it take for you and your family to acclimate in Japan?

When we got here, I was 27-weeks pregnant with Lorelei and Wyatt was 19 months-old, as far as time goes, I probably took the longest; and Adam and Wyatt took just a couple of weeks. We just kind of jumped in and overcame the jet lag and adjustment to the time difference. We got lost A LOT!!! But that is how we found new places to visit or try. Driving was an adjustment; I would always turn my wind shield wipers on instead of my blinker because everything is the opposite over here. I drove on the wrong side of the road once, but luckily no one was around! Learning the conversion rate between US dollars and Yen was interesting, but we survived and learned it little by little.

If you could sum up each of your children in just one word, what would those words be?

I would describe Wyatt as “sensitive” and Lorelei as “unique.”

How is growing up for them different than it was for you growing up?

I feel like when I was growing up, we had a sense of security and stability. I'm sure we were just sheltered and not made aware of the craziness going on in our world. Now with media outlets galore, I feel like our kids don't have that sense of security. My kids get to experience so many places that most people will never have the opportunity to see or do. However, it comes with the cost of moving and starting over a whole lot in one’s childhood when, really, what kids need is stability. So, we try very hard to make their transitions as smooth as possible.

Cherry Blossoms at Mt. Yaedake

Thursday, May 4, 2017

The Douglas Family

Miss Eliza Kate Douglas.  Photo Credit: Lisa Rowland
Tell me a little bit about Eliza

Jared: Eliza always has a smile on her face. She is feisty and temperamental, yet curious and strong-willed. She loves to follow her brother around and being the center of attention. She is a thumb-sucker and loves her pink blanket.

Kelly: She’s your typical baby girl. She’s very sweet, loving, and dainty. She loves books and her big brother. She doesn’t like to get dirty. She’s strong-willed and very particular about how she likes things. For instance, she will only sleep with a pink blanket. No other color will satisfy. I’m pretty sure that’s the definition of a southern belle.

How and when was Eliza first diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis?

Jared: January 7th, 2016, was the date Kelly and I found out that something might be wrong with Eliza. What should have been a routine ultrasound turned into the worst day of our lives. On that Thursday morning, the ultrasound tech found an abnormality with Eliza’s bowel. By that afternoon, our OB immediately got us in to see a fetal specialist. The specialist shared with us all the possible outcomes and our hearts broke. CF was one of the possibilities.

April 28th, 2016, was the official date of Eliza’s CF diagnosis. The confirmation came through the sweat test administered at the Pediatric Pulmonary clinic at UF Shands.

Kelly: I had a routine ultrasound sound done and the sonographer noticed that there appeared to be a blockage in her bowel. This is usually an indication of CF or another defect. It wasn’t 100% certain. Jared and I were tested to see if we were carriers and we found out we were. Our hearts were broken. Her diagnosis wasn’t confirmed until her newborn screen and salt test.

What do most people not know or realize about Cystic Fibrosis?

Jared: Most people do not realize that Cystic Fibrosis is a genetic disease. Which means that CF is not contagious. Other children will not get CF by being around Eliza.

Kelly: Most people don’t really know much about it. Only 30,000 people have this disease. They assume it’s a neurological disorder or something wrong with her spine. Some people look at her and think that nothing is wrong with her and it’s nothing serious. But it’s a progressive and complex disease. There are diverse types of severity and it varies from person to person. CF is a genetic disease. A defective gene causes thick mucus to build up in the lungs, pancreas, and other organs. The mucus can clog the airways, create lung infections, and cause lung damage.

How is Eliza’s routine different from Grayson’s or another child’s?


Jared: Eliza’s meal routine is different from Grayson’s. She takes enzymes before every meal or snack. One of the side effects of Eliza’s CF is that her pancreas does not produce enough of the enzyme needed to break down the nutritional fats in her diet. She takes vitamin supplements in the morning and the evening. Eliza’s bed time routine is also different from Grayson’s. Every evening she uses a nebulizer and wears a therapy vest for 30 minutes. Both activities help with her lung health.

Kelly: Eliza has a pretty much normal day to day life with just a few minor adjustments. Before she eats, we give her enzymes to help her body break down the food and retain nutrients from the food. She gets a little extra salt in her food because people with CF have a higher concentration of salt in their sweat. Salt is important for digestion, muscle function, and nerve cell health. Nutrition is very important for her health. Eliza eats high calories and high fat foods. She has chest physiotherapy (CPT) and a saline nebulizer treatment in the morning and at night This helps break up any mucus build up. We do all of her treatments in our living room. We let Grayson help or any member of our family help. We don’t ever want her feeling like she should hide her treatment or that it’s something done in private. We make it normal as possible.

Of course, we wash her hands constantly, because babies love to put their hands in their mouths. We don’t put her in daycare or in the nursery at our church. We limit her contact with people and avoid huge crowds. If Grayson gets sick, we try our best to keep them a little further apart.

What are some of the challenges that are faced day to day?

Jared: The most pressing challenge is keeping Eliza healthy and away from germs. For us, this means that she does not go to daycare or even to our church’s nursery. We avoid large crowds and ask people who are sick or have colds to stay away from Eliza. We try not to let people touch her hands or her face. We are constantly washing her hands.

Kelly: Keeping our house clean, protecting her from germs, and keeping up with normal everyday life is challenging! So pretty much typical of any other family! The biggest challenge we face is probably Jared and I making time for each other. Having a date night when you become parents is not as frequent as when it was just the two of you!

Sometimes the biggest blessings can come out of even some of the most challenging of situations. What are some of the blessings that you have experienced through this?


Jared: I believe the biggest blessing from Eliza’s CF are in the days ahead. Kelly and I look at Eliza’s CF as a platform to share our faith and the power of God in her young life. We believe that children are a blessing from the Lord and that every gift God gives is perfect. We look forward to that day that we can show how God works all things together for His glory.

Kelly: There are several blessings that have come from this. We have a beautiful daughter. She’s captured our hearts and has given us such joy. We can share our faith in Jesus. Without Him, we would not make it through this journey. I think the biggest blessing from CF is being able to relate to people when their life didn’t turn out like you planned or if something heartbreaking happened to you. Before CF, I had no idea how to comfort someone going through a difficult situation. I would try to say things I thought you should say instead of what someone needed to hear. People who are struggling need to hear that sometimes life sucks. It’s ok to not be ok. It’s ok to be angry. Dare I say, that it’s ok to be mad at God?! Shake your fist at him. He’s got big shoulders. He can take it. After all, He’s got the whole world in his hands. Right? Just don’t let the anger turn into bitterness. You’re going to need God to get you through it. I think we go through valleys for two reasons. One, to grow closer to God. Only from our darkest days do we rely on Him more. Two, to help others who will walk through them. How can you ever help someone if you’ve never walked their walk? It may not be the same walk but the pain feels the same.

I tell people who are brokenhearted that it’s ok to feel what you feel. Give yourself that time to feel. No matter how bad it hurts. Eventually, it will get better. You will pick up the pieces and begin to heal. You will get stronger every day.

If you could give any words of encouragement to another parent facing their child’s new CF diagnosis, what would you say?

Jared: One word of encouragement is to accept your new normal. Yes, our new normal has been challenging and at times down right frustrating. But as the days have turned into months, Kelly and I have become much more confident in caring for a child with CF.

Kelly: My words to a parent to their child’s CF diagnosis would be what I wished someone had said to me. Take time to grieve. Take time to pray. Don’t google anything! Allow yourself time to process. Then I would say, I truly believe we are going to witness a miracle. I believe that there will be a cure found for all forms of CF. Drugs and treatments have come so far. I’m confident that in my lifetime there will be a cure.

What information or advice would you give that parent?


Jared: For married couples, CF or in that sense, caring for anyone with special needs is trying and demanding. Kelly and I have had to remind ourselves that we were first husband and wife before we were Mommy and Daddy. My encouragement to these parents is to carve out time for your spouse.

Kelly: Your child may have CF but that doesn’t define them. God has created your child with talents and gifts. They are unique and there is no other child like yours. They will have a wonderful life. They may have to do things a little differently but they won’t miss out on anything this world has to offer.

What are some helpful websites and information sources for parents?

Jared: The Cystic Fibrosis Foundation: https://www.cff.org/

Kelly: The CF Foundation is the only website I would recommend. The CF Foundation was started in the 1950’s by the parents of children with CF.  They were determined to save the lives of their children. This foundation has led to adding decades to people’s lives. Before, CF kids weren’t expected to live to elementary age. Now people are living into their 30’s and 40’s. That number is growing every day. Their fundraising has made nearly every approved CF drug available today. This website is so helpful, informative, and encouraging.

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

The Folds Family

The Folds Family
Heather, Blake, Braden, Bubba, and Bryce
Tell me a little about Cystic Fibrosis.

Heather: "It's lengthy. So, I pulled up the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation website. Tons of information there. About Cystic Fibrosis--a quick run-down…'It's a progressive, genetic disease that causes persistent lung infections, and limits the ability to breathe over time. Symptoms of CF: very salty tasting skin; persistent coughing at times with phlegm; frequent lung infections including pneumonia or bronchitis; wheezing or shortness of breath; poor growth or weight gain in spite of a good appetite; frequent gassy, bulky stools, or difficulty with bowel movements; and male infertility.' And then it goes into all of the diagnostics and genetics and all of that.”

“So, the way I like to tell people is: ‘You don't really know if you're a CF carrier. When I met Bubba, we had no clue. Neither of us had ever really even heard of the disease. Apparently, you're a symptomless carrier. You have no idea that you're carrying it. It's a 1 in 4 chance for us to have a child with CF. Very slim. In order to have a child with CF, that particular sperm, my particular egg, both have to have the copy of CF. So, low and behold, that's how we got Bryce.’ I remember being pregnant with him, and the doctor asking me if I would like to do genetic testing. I was like ‘No…’ We were 21, very young, we were healthy, we didn't have any symptoms in our family….She did the typical rundown of what the test would be. She said ‘Cystic Fibrosis’ and I said ‘What is that?’ She said ‘If you've never heard of it, don't worry about it.’ So, we didn't do the testing. We didn't find out about Bryce until he was three and a half. See, they do newborn screenings now. In the State of Florida, in 2007, it passed where every newborn was screened for Cystic Fibrosis.”

“In 2007, Blake was born. His result came back abnormal for CF. We took him for the sweat test, which is how they also determine for CF. It opens up your pores and makes you sweat. You're shocked for 10 minutes, they do one leg at a time, they take the sweat and they test the salt content. I'll explain that a little further later on. When they did Blake's sweat test, his came back very low. We learned that he's a carrier for CF. So, whoever he will marry, she will need to be tested, given what we know.” 

“Number 3, Braden, was a huge surprise. After Blake, my husband went and got a vasectomy. So, God said ‘Eh, not done. You're not done, even if you say you're done.’ Of course, they did the newborn screening on him, because that was 2010. And it came back that he wasn't a carrier.” 

“So, we have a child with CF, a child who is a carrier, and a child that is not a carrier. For us to have a child that is not a carrier is also a 1 in 4 chance. To have one that is a carrier is a 50% chance.”

"CF not only affects the lungs and the digestion…but it affects the pancreas, the kidneys…it all wears down because his body is fighting so hard."

"He has to consume like 10,000 calories a day."

Bubba: "See, for him to breathe, it burns 3,000 calories. But then his body doesn't digest the fat, either. That's why he has to take enzymes….for the digestive problems." 

Heather: "Yeah, it's lengthy. We could take a whole week to tell you about it."

Bubba: "And with the enzymes that he takes, there is really no way to know when they're working or when they're not working. It's all trial and error. He could be growing and getting bigger, but not be taking enough enzymes, so he'll have constant stomach pains. If he's having stomach pains, or digestive issues, we have to up his enzymes. But then, he can only take so many enzymes per day. So, there's that to keep in mind, too."

Bryce, at 3, showing off his muscles
Bryce's Story
Heather: “When he was a newborn, he had meconium, but it was already passing through. Some CF babies have a blockage, and they will have to have multiple sonograms. Well, because we had no history, and because we didn't have insurance, we only had one sonogram. Everything was going well. I was growing, I was measuring where I needed to be, so there were really no concerns. When he was born, he had the meconium, and they had to beat him a little bit, and everything cleared up. He was good to go.”

The hospital had no air conditioning. The doctor asked if I had a support system. I told him ‘Yeah, my mom lives in Chiefland, and Bubba's mom came down from Jacksonville.’ The doctor said he was going to let us go home. So, we were released 24 hours later.”

“Everything was going good. He was just SO hungry. I thought it was me, because I was trying to nurse him. We finally supplemented formula, he was still hungry. The pediatrician was just like ‘Oh, he's just got failure to thrive. Let's go ahead and give him all formula.’ He seemed to start doing better. But when he was 4 months old, he was drinking 8 ounces every two hours. That's the whole bottle, every two hours! But the pediatrician was like ‘Oh, he's doing good!’ He started plumping up, and gaining weight.”

“Then, he started getting sick. I would have to sit up in bed, pillows up around me, and hold him up. When you would lay him down, and he would cry, he would gurgle and it didn't sound normal. But we were young parents, and we didn't know. We would just pick him up and he would be fine. As long as we were holding him up, or he was up in his car seat, or he was up in his swing, he was fine. The doctor said ‘Oh, he's asthmatic.’ We started doing the asthma treatments, and going through all of that. He started doing good. By the time he was one, the pediatrician said he was asthma-free.”

“He was chubby, he was growing…he was a little on the short side, but the pediatrician said ‘Well, you guys are small, so he'll probably just be tinier.’ That pediatrician was in Gainesville. Then, I started working for Trenton Pediatrics (now Palms Medical), so we started seeing Dr. Cathy Vega.”

“At three and a half, Bryce got an ear infection, and it was just not going away. We were up to the point of doing Rocephin shots. He had a rectal prolapse, which is an immediate sign for CF. My mom said ‘Something is wrong with Bryce.’ By the time that she brought him, he had relaxed enough and it had went back in. Dr. Kathy pulled her book, and found it and said, ‘ask your mom is this what she saw.’ She looked at the pictures and said ‘Yes! Right there, right there!’ Dr. Cathy closed her book and said ‘I want to rule everything out. The first thing we need to do is a Sweat Test for Cystic Fibrosis.’ I said ‘What do you mean?’ She said, ‘I just want to rule things out. Let's not be concerned.’ She pulled up Cystic Fibrosis and said ‘Look at these’ and named off all the symptoms. I said ‘No, no. He doesn't have that.’ I remember talking to Bubba, and he read the symptoms. He said ‘Heather…’ I said ‘No, I'm not going to believe it.’”

“They did an urgent referral, and I think we went within a matter of two days and got the Sweat Test. We came back, and I was working. I picked up the phone, and she said ‘This is Shands, we have a Stat for one of your patients.’ I asked the patient's name. She said ‘Bryce Folds.’ I dropped the phone, and literally fell. Susan Bongiovanni was in the window. She said ‘Heather!’ Everyone knew we'd gone and had the Sweat Test done. I said ‘It's Bryce.’ She ran around the corner, picked up the phone, got the results, hung up. Her, Dr. Cathy, Mrs. Peggy, they all took me into a room, and said ‘Heather, he has Cystic Fibrosis.’ I kept saying ‘No, no he doesn't!’ I was in denial. Bubba, being the dad, he knew that Bryce had it.”

“We had to go back within a week and do a second Sweat Test. The first one was 95% positive. The second one was 99% positive. During a sweat test, they put a medicine that makes you sweat on the thigh, then they put the gauze, then they hook electrodes on there. It shocks them. You know when your hand or foot goes to sleep? We asked the tech, "What is this doing to him?" He said "I'm so glad you asked me. I wanted to know. So, I did it to myself so that I could explain it. It's like the pins and needles when your hand and foot falls asleep." So, Bryce had to do that for 10 minutes on one leg, 10 minutes on the other. Then we had to wait 30 minutes for each leg. Three and a half years old and he's saying, ‘Mommy, please make it stop.’ Screaming the whole time. It was horrible.”

“When Blake had it done, he had no clue. He was only barely 6 weeks old. All I had to do was nurse him and he was okay. So, there was a big difference from having it done with a 6-week-old and a three-and-a-half-year-old.”

“We sat there. I think the first one we were brave for. We were in denial. We kept thinking ‘It's not going to happen. It's not going to happen. There's something else.’ The second one, we just broke down and cried. We didn't want to do it again, but they had to rule out a false positive.”

“Our nurse, Cindy Capian, was the best.--She, unfortunately, retired last year. I think everyone in the CF family/community was like ‘No! You can't go!’—But, that day, Bubba’s parents were there with us. She sat us down and went over every question that we had. She sat there and explained it to us. She said ‘Your life is not going to be the same, but that's okay. You guys CAN do this. I don't want you to think about the negative.’ And the most important thing she told us was: ‘Do not read the internet. You will see so many sad stories.’"

“We think how blessed we are, because we don't understand. He shouldn't look like this. He shouldn't. He has the Double Delta F508. They are almost always sickly, they're in the hospitals, and you look at him and you're like ‘No.’ We talked about this just the other day… ‘Why are we so blessed?’ Being that he's going to be 14, there are battles. He doesn't want to do his treatments the way he's supposed to. We get blown away by how healthy he is. Shands has sent many people into our room and they ask what we're doing. We say ‘We do whatever you tell us to do.’ We have no idea. We've told them, ‘It's prayer.’ We have no other explanation, but that's God's power, right there. I think Bubba was there when the nurses came in and looked at his chart and were like 'He has Cystic Fibrosis?!' So, we don't understand, but we are truly blessed.”

Bubba: "God has a purpose for Bryce. That's the way I really feel. He obviously has a purpose for everyone, but there's some purpose for Bryce. There's a 6-year-old boy right now, that has Double Delta F508, and he's in the ICU right now. He's not improving. He's skinny, his lungs aren't functioning. It's just night and day between him and Bryce. That's what really gives us the reality check and also makes us ask ourselves 'why are we so lucky or blessed.' It's not fair. But it's also not fair for us to have a child with CF, either. But I do believe that God has a purpose for Bryce."

Heather: "He was diagnosed December 19, 2006. That was a very hard year."

Blake: "Ms. Aleta, read that sign over there."

The sign that Kelly Douglas has gifted the Folds with.
Heather: "That was a gift from Kelly Douglas. She had gotten one for her house, too."

Heather: “This past December marked 10 years since he was first diagnosed. He's only been hospitalized once. April 24th of this year marked 5 years since his hospitalization. I'll never forget it. It was my birthday present that year. That day, the day five years ago when they sent him to the hospital...we were broke. We were like ‘No, this is not happening.’ We went five years without ever having to go to the hospital--without ever having to experience that side of CF. We spent 14 days in the hospital. That is the minimum--14 days. You don't get out sooner than that.”

Blake: "I was there. I was four!"

Bryce: "We got to leave one day early."

Heather: "Yeah, they did end up letting us leave one day early."

Bubba: "We went in for a quarterly checkup, and his lung function was down to less than 10%. We hadn't realized that. We knew that he was coughing…But they did the test and his lung function was the lowest it had ever been."

Heather: "Yeah, hospital stays…they call them ‘tune ups.’ He gets a pic line put in, they do IV medication through that. I think it's every 4 to 6 hours. They had him on 2-3 different antibiotics."

Bryce: "Even in the middle of the night."

Heather: "Every 2 hours he does his vest. They woke you up, they didn't care (she laughs). There was a time when I was like 'I'm going stir crazy, I have to get out now!' We actually took him out of the hospital…we didn't know we weren't supposed to. But we took him out, when he was doing better, and we walked all the way to Lake Alice. They asked us 'Where did you go? You're only supposed to stay in the hospital!' We didn't know. They were okay with it."

Heather: "Here are his medicines right now. One of your questions was 'how is his life different from his friends?' He has to take these--his dose right now is three with meals, two with snacks--So, he takes a handful of pills each day just with meals.”

The estimated daily amount of medicine that Bryce has to take just with meals.
(Shows another medicine) “They have actually taken this off of him. He only takes it now when he's sick. When Bryce is sick, he coughs. That is the tell-tale sign. When he is sick, he'll cough, and it's real mucous-y. We'll call Shands and they'll put him on an antibiotic, because they know it's not normal when he's coughing. Sometimes his sinus infections go straight to his lungs.”

“Pulmozyme--This is the hardest one for Bryce to take. Not quite sure why. It only takes 7 minutes. It's much like Albuterol treatments that babies take. This became available to Bryce when he turned 6. When he was first diagnosed, Pulmozyme was still in the trial phase. By the time he turned 6, it was released to CF patients. That was kind of awesome…we got to witness a medicine that was the trial phase actually become available to Bryce.”

“These are his vitamins. He's supposed to take two of these. These are also a battle. Again, not sure why. He doesn't like to take these either. He just got blood work done, so we'll see what his doctors say about that. They are pretty big. These are specifically made for A, D, E and K, because his body doesn't absorb those. So, they're higher concentration.”

“This is like the Holy Grail for Double Delta F508 CF--Orkambi. He got it when he turned 12. This medication goes outside of the cell, and tells the cell ‘you're not making Cystic Fibrosis,’ and reverses it. It's like goosebump-material. The first one was Kalydeco, Kalydeco goes inside the cell. He takes Orkambi twice a day with a high fat meal. His PFTs (Pulmonary Function Tests) are soaring because of this. They've now bumped it down to 6 years old. So, other children with Double Delta F508 CF will be able to get this when they turn 6."

Bubba: "That medicine right there is $23,000 a month."

Heather: "The first month, the insurance was like 'Okay, we'll send it.' Second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, and seventh months the insurance denied it. They kept saying 'You didn't do his genetic testing on the right paperwork.' So, we had to send him back for genetic testing. They still denied it…for unknown reasons. Everyone at Shands was like 'He's the only one that's being denied!'"

Bubba: "It wasn't on an approved USDA form the second time it came back. So, it had to be USDA approved in a USDA approved facility that it had to be done at."

Heather: "Finally, I had to write a letter stating, 'I cannot believe that you are denying my child life-saving medication. We've provided all the documentation, our nurses have talked to you, our doctors have talked to you, our representative with the pharmaceutical company has talked to you…I am talking to you now. Please approve this medication!' Wouldn't you know it, they approved it.”

“Actually, the day we went down, the ladies group at Pine Grove, I'd told them, and they'd been praying and praying. The whole six-seven months we kept getting denied. But that whole time, the pharmaceutical company kept getting it to us. Finally, they all took me to the altar. We all prayed at the altar. We prayed 'God, we're turning this over to you. We're going to stop fretting about it, it's in Your hands.' We get out of church, and my phone pings that I had a message. It's a voicemail from the pharmaceutical representative. She says 'I just want to let you know, the insurance has approved it. I had to come into the office and wrap up your paperwork.' Who else does that? I sat there and cried! Bubba asked 'what is it?' I said 'The medication has been approved! It's been approved!' Amazing! We are so blessed to have Orkambi.”

“The one catch with Orkambi is that Bryce now has to start having yearly eye exams. When he first started it, he had to have blood work every 3 months. Then it went to 6 months, and now we're yearly. They do that because it puts such a strain on his liver, so they have to check the liver enzymes. They do the eye exam, because they found that some of the patients on Orkambi got cataracts.”

“It's a battle as parents, we have to decide the pros and cons of life-saving medications. When he was younger, we had to choose not to put him on ADHD medicine, although he has it, because we didn't want to put him on anything else that would affect his liver. His medication already affects his liver and we didn't want to add to that.”

“I was reading today that there is more coming down the pipeline. Each CF patient takes the medication differently. A child might have Double Delta F508, like Bryce, but it doesn't mean the medicine is going to work the same. Their bodies are just different. It's like the 6-year-old he had mentioned earlier; his body is just not responding. He's in the hospital 3-4 times a year.”

Is there anything that you feel most people don't know or understand about CF?


Bubba: "I will say: One thing, he's not contagious. When people first hear about it, they think it's something else--like it's mental or physical. He's not contagious….he's not going to give it to you."

Heather: "It doesn't affect him mentally."

Bubba: "He's a normal kid. He can do everything that everyone else can. He just has to have different accommodations. He just has different battles. He has to drink more water, more gatorade because of the salt. When he sweats during the summer, you can actually see the salt beading up on his eyebrows."

Heather: "If you go on pinterest, you'll see all these funny CF memes. One says 'CF mamas be like 'just put a little salt on it.' And you barely see the french fries for the salt."

Bubba: "Everything he eats has to have salt on it. He sweats it out so fast!"

Heather: "And high fat. We can't do low-fat."

Bubba: "They can't say it's scientific…but they say typically the heavier a CF patient is, the better their lung function is."

Heather: "Pretty much what he burns he has to consume."

You touched on this a bit, but have you noticed medical advances from the when Bryce was first diagnosed and now?

Bubba: "I think when Bryce was first diagnosed, the life expectancy was 32 or 33. Now, it's at 39 and a half. That's just within 10 years.

Bryce: "There's someone who's 70 that has it."

Bubba: "It has definitely changed a lot. When Cystic Fibrosis first came about, there were kids dying at 2 or 3, and they had no idea what it was."

Heather: "And it's a relatively new illness. It was only first diagnosed in 1951 or 1952, I believe."

Bubba: "So, we see, every year, the changes."

Heather: "Definitely the life expectancy changes have been huge."

Bubba: "And now with Orkambi, there is no telling what it's going to be."

Bubba: "Something else that people don't realize is that it's one of the most expensive diseases out there. Between the medications, the vest, everything…it's very expensive. The Orkambi is $250,000 a year. Plumozyme is $100,000 a year. His Creon's are now up to $500-600 a month."

Heather: "His vitamins are free. Yay. Which he doesn't like to take. The ones that are most expensive are the newer ones, and the ones aimed at his lung function."

Are there special precautions, like during Flu season?

Bubba: "We all have to get flu shots, obviously. But like with get-togethers….say…with family…if someone has been coughing, I have to say 'I'm sorry, we won't be there.' And people do get mad at us sometimes. They don't understand how badly it can affect him. We're not trying to be mean! But if you have a runny nose, or have been coughing, we'll have to leave. It's hard for people to understand that."

Heather: "When he was hospitalized, what put him in the hospital was a common cold for you and me. He got it and it just spiraled."

Bryce: "They brought me toys every night at the hospital."

Heather: "Yes! I was like 'no wonder kids never want to leave!'"

Bubba: "And he got to meet the Pouncey twins. He got to meet baseball players. He got to meet the drummer off of Newsboys. I was putting together a new toy every single night. I was like 'stop bringing him toys! I'm tired of these legos, dadgumit!' (he laughs).

Heather: "Bryce enjoyed it; however, we went stir crazy! That's for sure."

Bubba: "Shands does a great job of taking care of them and making them feel important. We just hope we never have to go back."

Heather: "I told him--Dr. Abu-Hassan--He had come in and said 'You guys are leaving.' I said 'Good, because we aren't coming back!' He said 'Don't say that.' I said 'Nope, it took us 5 years to get here…' And you know what, on April 24, it was another 5 years since we've been there. And I'm not going back, I told him! (She laughs). I told him! I cannot wait to see him. I hope I see him."

Heather: "I think in the beginning of Bryce's diagnosis, because he was doing so well, they just thought we were being paranoid. But when he got hospitalized, and they found out it was from the common cold, they've amped it up a little. They'll now let us know if someone has been sick or something before a get-together so we don't go and risk Bryce getting sick. I think Bryce's hospitalization was a reality check for everyone."

Bubba: "This disease is serious. I think because he is so healthy, people take that for granted. And it stinks because he has to miss out on some things. He hates us for it. (Bryce and Bubba start laughing). We're hoping one day he'll understand. But even we take it for granted sometimes, because he's so healthy."

An article written in the Gilchrist County Journal when Bryce was selling T-shirts as a fundraiser.
Now, Bryce, other than the medicine, how is your routine different than your friends?

Bryce: "When I first wake up, I have to do my treatments. I have to take my medicine, obviously. I have to do my jacket twice a day, unless I’m sick. Then I have to do it every 4 hours."

Bubba: "Tell her about your vest."

Bryce: "It's a vest. It takes 30 minutes. I have to cough every time it beeps. It's to help break up the mucous."

Bubba: "You'll see shirts, like Heather said, on Pinterest, that say 'I beat my child nightly.' Before the vests came out, you literally had to beat your child on the chest."

Heather: "When we got the vest, it was $13,000, and we had to pay 10%. I like to tell people that it's kind of like a compressor. You have two vacuum hoses. As he grows, we call them up with the new measurements, and they send him a new jacket. It has a lifetime warranty.”

“You adjust it so that it covers his lungs, you buckle each strap in, tighten it up. He flips it on, and there is a quick start. It changes, it will compress really tight and shake loosely. Or it will compress really tight and shake fast. It just changes with every minute. It has 12 steps. That was something they told us from the get-go: "Do the quick start."

Bryce: "I'm up to 80%. Even sometimes 100% if I feel like it."

Heather: "That's how fast it shakes, and the compression he's at is 70%. When we went to the hospital, they had him on 30. He goes, 'You need to put it on 70.' And they were like 'What? Nobody ever does 70.' I was like 'We do. That's the automatic number on the quick start. He's been used to that since he was 3.' And like he said, some days he cranks it up to 100 if he's bored.”

"Once, Bryce dropped it, and it jammed the hoses into the machine. Luckily, they overnighted us a replacement. We boxed this one up, and sent it to them. They re-programmed it, updated it for us. They fixed it, even the wiring.”

“Shands is just floored by Bryce.”

Bubba: "Another thing about his routine is…He has to have blood glucose tests because he has a high chance of developing CF diabetes because of all of the sugar and such. We go every three months for a quarterly checkup, and we're there for 3 hours. They're checking his weight, they're checking his lungs, they're checking his PFTs…"

Bryce: "I always do good on those tests."

Bubba: "Because his lung function is good. We see psychiatrists, we see psychologists, we see dietitians, we see nutritionists. It's not fun, I'm not going to lie."

Heather: "You see basically every aspect of Shands when you're at CF clinic. And then the doctor comes in, you've got to talk to the doctor. Then the nurse comes back in…"

Bubba: "Which brings us to something else: When he's there, he has to wear a mask. CF people can't be within 6 feet of each other because of their germs. See, if I were to cough on him, it wouldn't be as bad as another CF patient coughing on him. Those germs are so much more high volatile. It could easily put him in the hospital (he snaps) like that. So basically, they're not able to be in the same room because their germs are just so much more highly contagious to one another."

Heather: "Even though we attend the same church, we have to be very careful of the functions that we attend with Eliza. There is a birthday party that we've been invited to, and they are going. I said 'I'm sorry, I would love to go, but we can't leave Bryce out. And that's okay."

Bubba: "We have to make sacrifices for our children. Even if I get a cold, I don't need to be around Bryce. It might take me 2 weeks to get over it, it might take him four months to get over it if it gets into his lungs. It could easily put him in the hospital."

Now if he's sick does he just not go to school?

Bubba: "It depends. If it's sinuses and it's draining, we'll send him to school. He doesn't like to miss school because he likes to hang out and socialize."

Heather: "Now, when he was younger…we were more cautious."

Bubba: "We pulled him out of daycare when we first found out he had CF, because of all the germs. Now, he likes to go to school. If he doesn't want to go to school, we can tell he's really sick."

Heather: "Usually we can tell, too, because he becomes really tired. The kid gave up naps when he was two. After two, he never wanted to take a nap. So, now, if he falls asleep during the day, we know something is up."



Bryce, what are some challenges that you face day-to-day?

Bryce: "Taking the Pulmozyme every day."

Heather (laughs): "Why don't you like to take the Pulmozyme?"

Bryce: "I don't know…because it's too much of a hassle to put together."

Heather: "What other challenges do you have?"

Bryce: "Not wanting to do my jacket on the weekends."

Bubba: "Friday night, Saturday and Sunday is a challenge because he wants to be a teenager."

Bryce: "Sunday nights I do it. I don't do it Saturday morning or Saturday nights sometimes."

Bubba: "Do you feel embarrassed when your friends are around?"

Bryce: "Not really."

Bubba: "Most of them want to try it out, anyways."

Heather: "All the cousins have tried it out except for the baby cousin. We even put it on my mom's dog once. He had congestive heart failure. My mom was like 'let's try it and see if it makes him better.' Bryce was like 'Okay!' He buckled him in and turned it on. He just sat there."

Bryce, if you could give any words of encouragement to someone with CF, what would they be?

Bryce: "Good luck."

Heather and Bubba, what words of encouragement would you give a parent who's child has been diagnosed with CF?

Heather: "It's not a death sentence. Don't look at it as that."

Bubba
: "It doesn't define you. It's a part of you, but do not let it define you. You have to take the bull by the horns, and pull up your big boy pants and deal with it. You have to say 'this is life," and move on. You can't sit there and dwell. There is a time to grieve, because it does suck. But you can't dwell on the negative. I know that it may seem harsh, but I think if you were to just sit there and dwell on the negative of this disease, it'll wear you down. It will consume you, and you won't be able to focus on your child. It's life-changing, and life-altering. As a parent, you give up a lot for your child. But as a parent of a child with CF, you really give up a lot. And I would do anything to make sure that he was doing okay and is healthy."

Heather: "It's not the same. We had to plan our day around his treatments, we had to always make sure medication was with us. We used to sanitize the table, our hands. People at restaurants would give us dirty looks, but I didn't care. I think I'm still like that to this day."

Bryce
: "We'll get to the restaurant and I forgot my medicine, and they get mad at me. (He laughs)."

Heather
: "We're trying to give him some responsibility. So we've told him, 'Okay, Bryce, you're going to start being responsible for your pills. You know we're walking out the door, you better have them.' Because I've always had them in my purse, Bubba's always had them in the car."

Bryce
: "But you have them in the glove compartment."

Heather
: "We have done that, because he's forgotten a lot. We've gotten all the way to Chiefland and I'll ask 'Bryce, you have your pills?' 'No.' Then the other boys are like 'Thanks a lot Bryce, now we've gotta go home!'"

Bryce laughs: "And I say, 'Well, I thought you had them in your car.'"

Heather: "But life is not the same. I don't think we would know what life without it is anymore. His first three years was full of stress and sickness. When he was first diagnosed, it devastated us…it broke our hearts. We were consumed with all the negativity of it. But come the new year, we were like 'New year=New life.' Whatever they told us to do, we did it. It was hard for Bryce. He had went 3 and a half years without having to do that routine. Without having to take all that medicine. He got angry."

Bubba: "That's why, to this day, he hates applesauce. When they're young, and not able to swallow pills, you have to break the enzyme pills up into applesauce. To this day, he hates applesauce."

Heather: "I think we were in Bar-B-Q Bills, and he swallowed his gum, and I wondered if he could swallow his pills. I asked him if he wanted to try and swallow his pills without the applesauce. He asked 'I can?' I said 'Yeah, you want to try it?' He put it in his mouth, and he swallowed it. He said, 'I swallowed it!' So, at 4, he was swallowing pills at 4."

Bryce: "Sometimes I can swallow them without water. People at school are amazed that I can swallow like 3 at the same time."

Heather: "And I think that the kids at school have grown up with him, so they have become accustomed to it. He actually got in trouble last year, because part of his label on his pill bottle got torn, and it was the part with his name. The teacher thought he was taking pills that weren't his. His classmates stood up and said 'No, those are Bryce's pills. He takes those every day.' It touched me to know that his classmates stood up for him and let the teacher know that it was something he had to do."

Are there any helpful websites that you would give to anyone interested in learning more about CF?


Heather: "The main one is the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation website: www.cff.org. That's what I tell everyone. Go there. Don't go anywhere else, but there. And I like pinterest, because it's funny. You can totally relate to the memes on there. There are times when I'll send them to Bryce and he'll laugh and say 'that's a good one.'"

When Bryce met the Pouncey Twins
What are some blessings that have come out of this?

Bubba: "I would say that meeting the Pouncey Twins was really cool. Getting their autograph, and getting a picture with them. He got to play Hot Wheels with them. You see these 250 lb. offensive linemen playing Hot Wheels with him."

Bryce: "I really wanted to meet Tim Tebow, but he was at the hospital that day."

Bubba: "This year was cool because he got to be the honorary guest at the Tailgate. It's a yearly fundraiser. Only one CF person gets to attend. And Bryce was chosen as the honorary guest. He got to make a wish. We went on a Nickelodeon cruise for 7 days, thanks to the Make A Wish Foundation. He got to ride in a limo."

Heather: "That was his big thing."

Bubba: "He got to choose between meeting Jeff Gordon, going on a Nickelodeon cruise, and there was something else…I can't remember now."

Bryce: "If I was asked now, I would choose to meet Jeff Gordon."

Heather: "He was all about a 'big boat' at that age. 'Big boat, big boat! I want to go on a big boat!'

Bubba
: "After a few days, we were like 'no more boats!'

Heather: "Yes, I don't ever want to go on another cruise again. But it was neat, we got to go to Puerto Rico. They had their own private island."

Bubba: "He gets to eat as much as he wants at school."

Bryce: "Sometimes, I'll go through all three lines in the lunchroom."

Bubba: "It's like the other night, he ate three sloppy joe sandwiches."

Heather: "That was the night before his bloodwork. He was like 'I'm not going to be able to eat tomorrow morning, I've gotta fill up!'"

What are some things that y'all are looking forward to in the future?

Heather: "Definitely the advancements of the medications. I do wholeheartedly believe that in Bryce's lifetime, they will have a cure for CF. Just for them to develop this Orkambi and Kalydeco,…you can almost taste it. It's right there. For them to develop a medication that can tell the defective cells 'stop what you're doing.'"

Bubba: "I'm looking forward to seeing what God has in store for Bryce's future. I know he's not much for public speaking now. But maybe it's going to be going and speaking and educating people. Letting people know that you can be this healthy, and you can overcome the struggles."

The Folds were part of the Top Fundraising Team and Top Individual Fundraiser for Great Strides in 2008.